Thread by @jenstirrup

It's a true #womenintech issue that there isn't enough representation of all genders in the speaking pool. Easier to fix that
BUT
we cannot assume that the audience actually wants us there. A thread.
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I know from experience that some audience members do not want a female speaker. We know from studies that female professors are judged more harshly in feedback. In my own feedback over the years, I've had plenty of malicious commentary from audience members. Memorable examples 2/

- why isn't she standing in front of the podium? I can't see her legs
- I like how I see her curves when she stands in the light in front of the projector
- isn't she a bit old for marketing?
and that doesn't include the ogling during the session when I present. Ugh😡🤢

Most males have been great 😍
However, there are the few who can wipe away all your achievements and diminish you as a woman.
Eg:
- Ignite attendees not wanting to sit beside me on the plane because I was 'ugly' even though I'd spent all week presenting

- People thinking 'Jan' (John) was presenting, then found 'Jen' and promptly leaving the session, assuming I didn't know anything.
- Listening to attendees slobber over female presenters as if I wasn't even present to hear them, then turning to confusion when I call them out

So what's the solution?
- The first thing is to recognize the problem; #womenintech need to be valued for what we bring, our skills and expertise. Don't pick me because of my body, but pick me for my brains, skills and expertise. It will follow from there

- Don't pick female speakers for their looks and then use them as marketing fodder.
- Choose all genders from all backgrounds.
- Fantastic women, esp women of colour on #Clubhouse IMHO. Meet women where they are comfortable. Audio-only helps remove focus on our physicality

- Stop telling #womenintech we need role models and then don't give us any. I don't need them, but I do need to know whom to avoid and how
- Stop barring people from speaking at your events because you don't like them, especially if you think you are a leader. Terrible example.

- When victims speak out, believe them. I know many people in tech didn't believe me because I 'recovered too well but if people like Michaela Coel can be successful in the 'after' event, why can't I? Stop judging and start believing

ok. Now I've spoken out, I'm bracing myself for the backlash. Go for it.