Yesterday, my son and I went away on a one-night trip. We had just checked into our hotel room. I sat down on the bed and opened my phone to find a ton of unread texts from my friends waiting.

One of our other friends, one of my best friends growing up, is very sick.

1/
I am still in shock.

Having gone through my mother-in-law’s cancer, I’m no stranger to having to compartmentalize.

So, I pulled it together; cordoned off that news for a few hours; and was present with my son for dinner and then a concert.

2/
I stepped out of the room to get coffee this morning and there waiting just outside the compartment I managed to put it in for the night was the news of my friend’s diagnosis.

I’m in shock. I’m devastated. And maybe worst of all, I’m familiar.

3/
And now I’ll pull it together and compartmentalize again long enough for breakfast and a drive home.

And then at some point this afternoon, I’m going to go off somewhere by myself and just sit and cry.

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That black car pulls up. Woman rolls down the window, says “You’re blocking an active roadway, you know.”

Me: No, I’m not.

Her: You are.

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Her: That (pointing to the grassy lane to the left of me) is an active roadway.

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Her again: You should move.

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Me: (Tone shifting to “I’m not the one for this, lady.”) I have been coming here for ten years…

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Today, plan something to look forward to.

Something you really want to do.

A meal, a show, a trip, a class, a visit to friends, a project. It doesn’t matter what it is.

Just something you want to do.

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Today, before you go to bed, commit to doing something you want to do.

If you can book it or some part of it, do it. You can sort out the rest later.

There is something you’d love to do out there. Something you’ll look forward to until it arrives.

Today, make it real.

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The amount of land we consume with largely unused parking lots, also a sin.

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The note: I am glad it struck a chord with some; it struck one for me too.

Selfishness screams. Kindness whispers.

We must look close and listen hard to find the kindness or all we see and hear is selfishness.

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That little Giving Garden - those little rows of raised beds tended by strangers - produces 70,000 pounds of fresh produce a year.

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1/
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