10 times I was wrong about the world
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1.
In school, I was the diligent, studious, obedient kid.
But there were kids around me, who weren't.
And I looked down upon them.
I thought those who smoke, drink, do not study, do not obey, as evil people.
I felt righteous in my approach.
And felt right to judge them!
In school, I was the diligent, studious, obedient kid.
But there were kids around me, who weren't.
And I looked down upon them.
I thought those who smoke, drink, do not study, do not obey, as evil people.
I felt righteous in my approach.
And felt right to judge them!
Most of those kids have gone on to do meaningful things in life.
One of them runs a big chemist shop.
He went out of his way to source meds for my mom during the 2nd wave, when I had lost all hope.
In the end, how you treat people, defines who you truly are!
One of them runs a big chemist shop.
He went out of his way to source meds for my mom during the 2nd wave, when I had lost all hope.
In the end, how you treat people, defines who you truly are!
2.
My first assignment post-ISB was to build a financial plan for a real-estate project.
And I hated accounting!
So I didn't do a good job at it.
I told myself - that's ok.
"If I do something wrong, my manager will find it and ask me to fix it."
I made my manager do my job!
My first assignment post-ISB was to build a financial plan for a real-estate project.
And I hated accounting!
So I didn't do a good job at it.
I told myself - that's ok.
"If I do something wrong, my manager will find it and ask me to fix it."
I made my manager do my job!
Your guides, your mentors, your managers are not there to fix your mistakes.
They are there to guide you, so that you are eventually able to see your own mistakes.
They are there to guide you, so that you are eventually able to see your own mistakes.
3.
As we hired a bunch of smart, driven individuals at nearbuy, I wanted to create a culture of 100% autonomy.
And I defined it as "let them decide what needs to be done. They are smart."
But they didn't know what needs to be done.
They didn't have context.
As we hired a bunch of smart, driven individuals at nearbuy, I wanted to create a culture of 100% autonomy.
And I defined it as "let them decide what needs to be done. They are smart."
But they didn't know what needs to be done.
They didn't have context.
Autonomy isn't about letting people decide what needs to be done.
It is about sharing what needs to be done and then giving them the freedom to decide HOW it could be done.
99% people want to be led.
Not managed.
Led!
It is about sharing what needs to be done and then giving them the freedom to decide HOW it could be done.
99% people want to be led.
Not managed.
Led!
4.
Growing up without money, I always hated it for our problems.
Because of which I despised rich people as well.
They were shrewd, corrupt and lacked any respect towards people.
For me, someone got rich only by driving someone else to poverty.
Wealth, was a zero-sum game to me.
Growing up without money, I always hated it for our problems.
Because of which I despised rich people as well.
They were shrewd, corrupt and lacked any respect towards people.
For me, someone got rich only by driving someone else to poverty.
Wealth, was a zero-sum game to me.
Today I realize that my ignorance about wealth, drove my emotions.
Over the years, I have seen what it is to "create" wealth out of something that didn't exist before.
It didn't come at anybody's expense.
Instead because one added value to an existing experience.
Over the years, I have seen what it is to "create" wealth out of something that didn't exist before.
It didn't come at anybody's expense.
Instead because one added value to an existing experience.
5.
When people approached me with their problems, my first reaction was, "why do you always seem to get into trouble?"
"How are you so dumb?"
"Why did you do that?"
"What were you thinking?"
"Alright, let me fix this for you!"
They needed help.
I offered judgement.
When people approached me with their problems, my first reaction was, "why do you always seem to get into trouble?"
"How are you so dumb?"
"Why did you do that?"
"What were you thinking?"
"Alright, let me fix this for you!"
They needed help.
I offered judgement.
Today I realize, not every problem needs to be solved.
Some need to just be heard.
Just be felt.
Just be empathized with.
Listening to someone without judgement is the most precious gift you can give someone.
Some need to just be heard.
Just be felt.
Just be empathized with.
Listening to someone without judgement is the most precious gift you can give someone.
6.
I was the quiet kid. The introvert.
And then there were the loud ones.
The ones who laughed our loud.
The ones who danced at parties.
Cracked jokes.
Made friends easily.
Seeking attention, in my opinion.
They were simply seeking attention!
I was the quiet kid. The introvert.
And then there were the loud ones.
The ones who laughed our loud.
The ones who danced at parties.
Cracked jokes.
Made friends easily.
Seeking attention, in my opinion.
They were simply seeking attention!
Most of them were just being themselves.
They didn't need my opinion.
They didn't need any stimulants.
They were being themselves.
They were comfortable being themselves.
If you are comfortable dancing in public without alcohol or drugs, you are at peace with who you are.
They didn't need my opinion.
They didn't need any stimulants.
They were being themselves.
They were comfortable being themselves.
If you are comfortable dancing in public without alcohol or drugs, you are at peace with who you are.
7.
As a founder I felt raising money was success.
Now we could have a fancy office, hire people we couldn't afford earlier, spend aggressively on marketing.
That's the smell of success.
That is success!
People congratulated us on raising money.
Ofcourse, we felt within!
As a founder I felt raising money was success.
Now we could have a fancy office, hire people we couldn't afford earlier, spend aggressively on marketing.
That's the smell of success.
That is success!
People congratulated us on raising money.
Ofcourse, we felt within!
The only success for a company is when it raises money from customers.
Not investors.
I was a fool accepting the congratulations.
The journey had started.
Not ended.
Congratulating a founder on raising money is like congratulating a chef on buying vegetables.
Not investors.
I was a fool accepting the congratulations.
The journey had started.
Not ended.
Congratulating a founder on raising money is like congratulating a chef on buying vegetables.
8.
For 33 years, I ate shit, slept odd hours, abused my body and got away with it.
I kept telling myself that if I am happy in life, then I don't need to take care of my body.
I convinced myself I have time.
I am still young.
I will attend to this tomorrow.
For 33 years, I ate shit, slept odd hours, abused my body and got away with it.
I kept telling myself that if I am happy in life, then I don't need to take care of my body.
I convinced myself I have time.
I am still young.
I will attend to this tomorrow.
Life is what is happening to you RIGHT NOW.
But for most of us, life is what we make excuses for while trying to dream of a better life tomorrow.
But for most of us, life is what we make excuses for while trying to dream of a better life tomorrow.
9.
I assumed friends are forever.
I assumed parents are never wrong.
I assumed trying to move out of relationships that didn't work for you is immoral.
My view of relationships was that of permanence.
Even if they stopped growing.
I assumed friends are forever.
I assumed parents are never wrong.
I assumed trying to move out of relationships that didn't work for you is immoral.
My view of relationships was that of permanence.
Even if they stopped growing.
The only thing humankind cares about, is growth.
Once we stop experiencing it, is when we begin to decay.
Friends can be toxic. And they wouldn't know!
Parents can be wrong. They are humans!
Sometimes, stepping away from a relationship is the best way to save it.
Once we stop experiencing it, is when we begin to decay.
Friends can be toxic. And they wouldn't know!
Parents can be wrong. They are humans!
Sometimes, stepping away from a relationship is the best way to save it.
10.
Everyone around me had it figured out.
I was the only one struggling.
Everyone knew what they wanted to do in life.
Everyone looked happy.
Content.
And here I was struggling.
Trying to make sense of my own self.
Why was I so dumb?
Everyone around me had it figured out.
I was the only one struggling.
Everyone knew what they wanted to do in life.
Everyone looked happy.
Content.
And here I was struggling.
Trying to make sense of my own self.
Why was I so dumb?
Today at 40 I know that no one has it figured out.
All of us are trying to figure it as we move along.
No one know BEFORE taking a decision whether it will work out or not.
We all do once we have taken it.
The key then, is to keep moving.
Don't sit on your decisions.
All of us are trying to figure it as we move along.
No one know BEFORE taking a decision whether it will work out or not.
We all do once we have taken it.
The key then, is to keep moving.
Don't sit on your decisions.
I wouldn't be able to relate to the 20yr old me.
It amazes me how much I have changed.
Yet how much of the core still remains the same.
I guess life is always about rediscovering yourself, challenging your own beliefs and yet staying true to the values that have gotten you here
It amazes me how much I have changed.
Yet how much of the core still remains the same.
I guess life is always about rediscovering yourself, challenging your own beliefs and yet staying true to the values that have gotten you here
Changing my opinion excites me.
Because I know I am a better person with the new opinion.
I am more informed, with the new opinion.
I am more convinced, with the new opinion.
Because I know I am a better person with the new opinion.
I am more informed, with the new opinion.
I am more convinced, with the new opinion.
It hurt when I realized I was wrong.
Or was told that I am wrong.
But that pain was temporary.
The joy of the new me, while that took some time to surface, was far greater in the long run.
It shaped me!
Or was told that I am wrong.
But that pain was temporary.
The joy of the new me, while that took some time to surface, was far greater in the long run.
It shaped me!
The secret to being wrong isn't to avoid being wrong.
The secret is being willing to be wrong.
The secret is realizing that wrong isn't fatal!
@ThisIsSethsBlog
The secret is being willing to be wrong.
The secret is realizing that wrong isn't fatal!
@ThisIsSethsBlog
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