Thread by @Chimsky1

Pick. Your. Poison.

Do what works for you.
A friend of mine got married several years ago.
And based on what he had seen in Hollywood movies and advice from several unsolicited marriage counselors, he went down the democratic route at home.
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He decided to put everything on the table with his partner and wanted to split bills.
But according to him, they spent so much time squabbling and splitting hairs over money decisions.
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After a few years, he thought he should try another solution.
Yes.
He took responsibility and decided there and then that he would pay every last bill.
And guess what?
It worked.
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Don't get me wrong.
Right now, his wife may volunteer to contribute, but only if she CHOOSES to. He told me that he thinks that what she may have resented initially was being obliged to contribute to bills whether she felt like it or not.

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He is happy as he got his peace back.
He has responsibility for everything; and he says this can be tough, but the upside is that NOBODY questions his authority.
No one.
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So this is marriage.
It is REAL.
There are no 'one size fits all' solutions.
Do what works for your peculiar situation.
Pick. Your. Poison.
Carefully.
Cheers.

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