1. Hello and welcome! It’s episode 348 of Mr and Mrs Better Half. #MrMrsBetterHalf is designed to strengthen marriages and relationships that will lead to marriage, with wisdom from God's Word. 
2. On today's episode, we are discussing "Is there really no romance without finance?" #MrMrsBetterHalf
3. Every so often, you and your spouse will have to sit down and resolve certain issues so you can be on the same page. #MrMrsBetterHalf
4. One issue you both should discuss early and periodically in your marriage should be money. Money is one of the top 3 reasons why people get divorced. Be it a lack of it, too much of it or how it’s spent. #MrMrsBetterHalf
5. Money often tries to take over the people that own it. It is supposed to be a servant but it has the power to ensnare. You must not let the love or the desire for money hinder you from making the right decisions in your marriage. #MrMrsBetterHalf
6. Now money isn’t evil- in fact it is good to have, but you must remember it isn’t the key to happiness. Many couples assume that if they made just a little more money, their marriages would be happier. #MrMrsBetterHalf
7. Sorry. Real marital satisfaction is found in faithfulness, love, endurance & other intangible qualities. I once visited the home of a couple that lived very simply; average house, average car, average neighbourhood. #MrMrsBetterHalf
8. By city standards you could say they were definitely ‘hustling’. They didn’t seem to have any luxuries at all. However, it was such a pleasant visit. They were so warm and were obviously pleased to have me in their home. #MrMrsBetterHalf
9. I also noted their regard for each other. They laughed a lot and had private jokes. This was a couple in love. On the other hand, I’ve visited a several other homes that would be considered stunning anywhere on earth. #MrMrsBetterHalf
10. I also noted their regard for each other. They laughed a lot and had private jokes. This was a couple in love. On the other hand, I’ve visited a number of homes that would be considered stunning anywhere on earth. #MrMrsBetterHalf
11. In some of those homes, I’m sad to say I have met people with hearts as cold as their marble floors. #MrMrsBetterHalf
12. Their fancy furnishing and eye-popping gadgets could not fill up the obvious vacancy of love. I can sincerely say that I would rather be average and loved, than be rich, miserable, and emotionally alone. #MrMrsBetterHalf
13. Does it mean poverty makes life easier? No. Poverty induces suffering that can make love hard to express. Does this mean there are no rich, happy people? No. I know several wonderful couples that are happy and wealthy. #MrMrsBetterHalf
14. The point is to esteem your love and regard for God and your family above your respect for material wealth. Remember that life does not consist in things, but in relationships. First with God and second with people.
15. A good relationship with God and with your spouse can handle money in whatever degree it comes. Money will amplify your flaws or your strengths both personally and how you operate as a couple. #MrMrsBetterHalf
16. If you are stingy, unintelligent, mean spirited, envious or pretentious, money will multiply that side of you. If you are generous, responsible, frugal, intelligent and kind hearted, money will multiply that side of you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
17. So at the core, you need to work on character, and you have to work on it quickly to make real progress. In addition to your character, here are some things that you might want to consider to help your monetary hostilities. #MrMrsBetterHalf
18. Men, it’s critical that we provide for our families. We must have a home with food on the table, pay school fees etc. It is however NOT critical that our families live in the lap of luxury at the expense of our relationship with them. #MrMrsBetterHalf
19. I remember a man who bought his wife a new car. She said, ‘a new car won’t keep me company at night.’ Don’t be so caught up with providing the ‘best’ that you forget to be husband and father. Your family needs you. #MrMrsBetterHalf
20. This applies also to ladies who may be the moguls in their homes. Be a wife and mother, not just a money. On the flip side, is it wrong to want more when money isn’t in abundance? Is it wrong to work harder to have more? #MrMrsBetterHalf
21. I encourage embracing godly contentment. There is a difference between being content and being contained. Contained speaks of imprisonment. Like you are trying to make progress but are being hindered. #MrMrsBetterHalf
22. Being content speaks of peace, gratitude and optimism. Appreciating the present and anticipating a better future. Whether or not money has been a source of tension in your home I need you to do this exercise this weekend. #MrMrsBetterHalf
23. Paint a picture of the preferable future of your family for the next 5 years. What’s your desired standard of living? Be as specific as possible. Where would you want to live? Would you be homeowners? Investment portfolio, etc. #MrMrsBetterHalf
24. How will you get there? Will you need to take a course? Go to school? Change jobs? Also make a list of what kind of relationship you would like to have with your spouse and kids. Be specific. #MrMrsBetterHalf
25. How will this be achieved? Free up weekends? Go on vacation? Attend more of your kids’ events? #MrMrsBetterHalf
26. And then what of your service to God? How many hours will you dedicate to His service? How will you participate in your local church and in community development? Make this good. #MrMrsBetterHalf
27. Now you both have a rough picture of what you’d like your life to be in 5 years, work towards it together. In doing so, remember in life you juggle 5 balls. Family, faith (or integrity), health, friends and work. #MrMrsBetterHalf
28. The first 4 balls are made of crystal. If you let them fall, they will shatter. The last ball, work, is made of rubber. When faced with critical decisions that require compromise, be sure to protect your crystals above the rubber. #MrMrsBetterHalf
29.Your family and relationships are irreplaceable. Money is everywhere. Never forget this. I hope this has been helpful. I will be back next week with a new topic. #MrMrsBetterHalf
30. Before then, please visit amarecourse.com for my newly launched course on relationship. Whether you're planning to getting married or already married, you'll find the course helpful. #MrMrsBetterHalf
31. Till next week Friday, thank you for following, participating and RTing. May your marriages be sweet! #MrMrsBetterHalf
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