Not to pick on @ai_action but this is exactly what so many abled people think.
Why would you think that you understand my own capabilities better than I do? And why would you assume that based on that understanding you can ignore my boundary?
Where is my agency here?
Why would you think that you understand my own capabilities better than I do? And why would you assume that based on that understanding you can ignore my boundary?
Where is my agency here?
https://twitter.com/ai_action/status/1418992952991354882
It may 100% be absolutely true that some people can do more than they think they can, with X cost under Y condition.
It's also NOT YOUR JOB to "help" them get to that point, unless they specifically ask you.
It's also NOT YOUR JOB to "help" them get to that point, unless they specifically ask you.
If you push a disabled person in this way they may feel pressure to collapse their boundary (because this happens constantly, and it's hard to maintain boundaries against resistance) and you'll think you've "helped" them when you don't know the cost.
If you do this *you are not a bad person* for not understanding the experience of someone different from you.
But you may be less of a good person if, armed with this new knowledge, you continue to ignore the boundaries of disabled people.
Does that make sense?
But you may be less of a good person if, armed with this new knowledge, you continue to ignore the boundaries of disabled people.
Does that make sense?
Also: lolol I am not saying I never need help. Quite the opposite, I actually need help and support in a lot of ways both big and small.
But it's not really help if it doesn't actually help me. It's arguably well-intentioned but often about making the "helper" feel good.
But it's not really help if it doesn't actually help me. It's arguably well-intentioned but often about making the "helper" feel good.
The people I trust to help me are the ones who ask me what I need instead of telling me what they think I should need.
The ones who listen when I say "Can we do X?" without asking why, except out of curiosity to help better support me in the future.
Save me from saviors.
The ones who listen when I say "Can we do X?" without asking why, except out of curiosity to help better support me in the future.
Save me from saviors.
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