In a marriage sexual compatibility (or chemistry) between a man & a woman is the direct result of other types of relationship compatibility which can be vetted for without the need to have intercourse.
Know how to spot a good lover.
2/ Sexual polarity is key.
Masculine men want feminine women and vice versa.
You will be most attracted to someone who is as far from neutral (androgynous) as you are.
The greater the sexual dimorphism the greater the attraction and the sexual energy in the relationship.
3/ The tension between the masculine and feminine builds energy.
Greater sexual energy will lead to more satisfying sexual releases.
With poor polarity it can take a long time to build up enough sexual energy for a great release, or sex may be more often but less fulfilling.
4/ The novelty of a new sexual partner may simulate greater polarity as both pretend to be something they are not. Tricking them into thinking they are compatible.
This illusion can not be sustained in a marriage.
Only legitimate sexual polarity can be maintained long term.
5/ Polarity in premarital sex, especially early in a relationship has little bearing on polarity during marriage.
A test drive is not the same thing as living with a long term ownership commitment.
In fact premarital sex actually clouds our judgments about polarity.
6/ Sexual polarity must be actively maintained. but that takes work.
Will your partner do the work to maintain the relationship?
Do they even know WHAT to do or HOW?
Are they willing to learn?
(I can help you both on this, DM me)
7/ Signs of a good lover: Men
1⃣Is he generous, not stingy with time, money or affection? Does he tip well, spend money freely but not irresponsibly?
2⃣Is he physically fit? Can he move? Does he dance or fight?
3⃣Does he reciprocate in his relationships? Or is he selfish?
8/ Signs of a good lover: Men
4⃣Does he have good emotional regulation? A man with no emotions cant be a be a passionate lover. A man ruled by his emotions is broken.
5⃣Does he have boundaries that he is willing to defend. You will not be able to maintain attraction to a simp.
9/ Signs of a good lover: Women
1⃣Is she submissive & seeking to please? Or does she secretly want to be the man?
2⃣Is she fit? Does she dance? Does she care for her health and appearance as a habit?
3⃣Does she openly communicate her needs? Or expect you to read minds?
10/ Signs of a good lover: Women
4⃣Is she a happy women? A sad sack, bitter, grumpy woman will not want to have sex and it wouldn't be much fun even if she did.
5⃣Does being around her make you feel like a bigger, stronger, more courageous man? Or do you feel diminished?
11/ The same things that make a man a great husband make him a great lover.
And the things that make a woman a great wife make her a great lover.
After that, its all about practice, building trust and finding out what works for you as a couple.
Sexual compatibility isn't about sexual compatibility
All adult penises and vaginas are "compatible"
(Excepting some unusually sized specimens)
What we are really asking is something else, something deeper, so lets look into that
2/ When a man asks, "how do I know if she is sexually compatible with me?" he means, "will she fulfil MY sexual needs?" or "does she have a sex drive to match my own?"
A reasonable question
Men have 10x to 20x the testosterone of women and a correspondingly higher sex drive
3/ The good news is that a loving, submissive, eager to please women isn't going to leave you sexually frustrated, even if she's not "in the mood"
For most couples with healthy sex lives it is the man who usually initiates sex, this is normal
Teasing is a lot of fun, even in a mature relationship
The problem is most men dont know how to tease properly
Healthy teasing is all about emotional play, dominance and imagination
It shouldn't use negative language or putdowns
It can elevate both
Teasing is sexy for women because it
✅ demonstrates a mans frame and intelligence
✅ feeds her desires for attention
✅ stimulates a womans imagination (play)
✅ has emotional impact and excitement
✅ gives her "permission" to act out fantasy
✅ breaks up potential monotony
Men: Healthy teasing comes from a positive masculine frame, lead the tease
If you are ashamed, fearful or timid you are likely to slip into negative teasing
If you are bold, confidant and strong it elevates you and your thinking
In days long past our ancestors lived in the Chaos of nature, under constant threat from weather, wild beasts and wild men.
Only by coming together and Federating into communities were they able to turn the tide and begin to hold their own. They discovered natural roles for each member of society, one way that roles were divided was between Men and Women.
They developed the Patriarchy and the Matriarchy for their protection and organisation.
- Its going to be a yearly occurrence (credit @TheEmpalador).
- It will gut the third world and the inner cities.
- People who can will move into small, closed communities in the countryside, in-group preferences will flourish.
- Group schooling (public and private) as well as universities will become a thing of the past, replaced by online courses.
- With children at home gender roles will normalise and demand for the return of a fractal western Patriarchy will grow.
- Public entertainment will end.
- Travel for pleasure will end.
- Immigration will be reversed as left leaning urban centres are depopulated, rural populations will grow again.
- People start looking more suspiciously at everyone who is not in their group.
- Local, automated manufacturing will replace imports.