1/ SEXUAL COMPATABILITY: A THREAD
In a marriage sexual compatibility (or chemistry) between a man & a woman is the direct result of other types of relationship compatibility which can be vetted for without the need to have intercourse.
Know how to spot a good lover.
In a marriage sexual compatibility (or chemistry) between a man & a woman is the direct result of other types of relationship compatibility which can be vetted for without the need to have intercourse.
Know how to spot a good lover.
2/ Sexual polarity is key.
Masculine men want feminine women and vice versa.
You will be most attracted to someone who is as far from neutral (androgynous) as you are.
The greater the sexual dimorphism the greater the attraction and the sexual energy in the relationship.
Masculine men want feminine women and vice versa.
You will be most attracted to someone who is as far from neutral (androgynous) as you are.
The greater the sexual dimorphism the greater the attraction and the sexual energy in the relationship.
3/ The tension between the masculine and feminine builds energy.
Greater sexual energy will lead to more satisfying sexual releases.
With poor polarity it can take a long time to build up enough sexual energy for a great release, or sex may be more often but less fulfilling.
Greater sexual energy will lead to more satisfying sexual releases.
With poor polarity it can take a long time to build up enough sexual energy for a great release, or sex may be more often but less fulfilling.
4/ The novelty of a new sexual partner may simulate greater polarity as both pretend to be something they are not. Tricking them into thinking they are compatible.
This illusion can not be sustained in a marriage.
Only legitimate sexual polarity can be maintained long term.
This illusion can not be sustained in a marriage.
Only legitimate sexual polarity can be maintained long term.
5/ Polarity in premarital sex, especially early in a relationship has little bearing on polarity during marriage.
A test drive is not the same thing as living with a long term ownership commitment.
In fact premarital sex actually clouds our judgments about polarity.
A test drive is not the same thing as living with a long term ownership commitment.
In fact premarital sex actually clouds our judgments about polarity.
6/ Sexual polarity must be actively maintained. but that takes work.
Will your partner do the work to maintain the relationship?
Do they even know WHAT to do or HOW?
Are they willing to learn?
(I can help you both on this, DM me)
Will your partner do the work to maintain the relationship?
Do they even know WHAT to do or HOW?
Are they willing to learn?
(I can help you both on this, DM me)
7/ Signs of a good lover: Men
1⃣Is he generous, not stingy with time, money or affection? Does he tip well, spend money freely but not irresponsibly?
2⃣Is he physically fit? Can he move? Does he dance or fight?
3⃣Does he reciprocate in his relationships? Or is he selfish?
1⃣Is he generous, not stingy with time, money or affection? Does he tip well, spend money freely but not irresponsibly?
2⃣Is he physically fit? Can he move? Does he dance or fight?
3⃣Does he reciprocate in his relationships? Or is he selfish?
8/ Signs of a good lover: Men
4⃣Does he have good emotional regulation? A man with no emotions cant be a be a passionate lover. A man ruled by his emotions is broken.
5⃣Does he have boundaries that he is willing to defend. You will not be able to maintain attraction to a simp.
4⃣Does he have good emotional regulation? A man with no emotions cant be a be a passionate lover. A man ruled by his emotions is broken.
5⃣Does he have boundaries that he is willing to defend. You will not be able to maintain attraction to a simp.
9/ Signs of a good lover: Women
1⃣Is she submissive & seeking to please? Or does she secretly want to be the man?
2⃣Is she fit? Does she dance? Does she care for her health and appearance as a habit?
3⃣Does she openly communicate her needs? Or expect you to read minds?
1⃣Is she submissive & seeking to please? Or does she secretly want to be the man?
2⃣Is she fit? Does she dance? Does she care for her health and appearance as a habit?
3⃣Does she openly communicate her needs? Or expect you to read minds?
10/ Signs of a good lover: Women
4⃣Is she a happy women? A sad sack, bitter, grumpy woman will not want to have sex and it wouldn't be much fun even if she did.
5⃣Does being around her make you feel like a bigger, stronger, more courageous man? Or do you feel diminished?
4⃣Is she a happy women? A sad sack, bitter, grumpy woman will not want to have sex and it wouldn't be much fun even if she did.
5⃣Does being around her make you feel like a bigger, stronger, more courageous man? Or do you feel diminished?
11/ The same things that make a man a great husband make him a great lover.
And the things that make a woman a great wife make her a great lover.
After that, its all about practice, building trust and finding out what works for you as a couple.
And THAT is a whole lot of fun.
And the things that make a woman a great wife make her a great lover.
After that, its all about practice, building trust and finding out what works for you as a couple.
And THAT is a whole lot of fun.
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