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Brit Williams, Ph.D.

6 Aug, 7 tweets, 2 min read

If you think having the means to support your child (adult or not) but letting them live on the streets is “tough love,” you don’t deserve kids.

I truly hate anyone who can show disdain towards a life they created *without the input* of said person. We didn’t ask to be born.

We are living in times of extreme wealth inequality. Extreme food and housing insecurity to match. And you think tough love is what folks need?

18 years is just a start. It’s only a piece of what you owe your kids. And for someone who has borderline limitless wealth? Plz.

This isn’t a discussion about a struggling family who can’t afford to help. And even if it were, parental support is not solely about money. You can’t, with all your resources, connect your kid to services? And for the sake of your grandkids?

If you don’t want to make a life long commitment, don’t have a child. While the law technically says you’re free at 18, leaving a kid to figure it out at 18 will undermine their progress into full adulthood.

Sure, some survive. But you owe them a chance to thrive.

US society is neither socially nor structurally designed to just let people go at 18.

Even the freaking college admissions process, when you are fully grown, asks for your parents info unless you declare as on your own (which came with hella hoops in my day).

That man is a woman beating child hating self aggrandizing awful person and nothing can convince me otherwise.

Every day y’all get on here to defend traumatizing, abusing, mistreating, & downright beating kids. It’s 🗑.

Somma y’all are terrible parents. Tbh, y’all should feel lucky I opted out, BC I would run rings around you— and it would be another reminder of your mediocrity.

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I am seeing a massive number of higher ed jobs with salaries under 30,000.

It’s 2021.
Everything costs more generally but even more so BC of the panoramic.

Has anyone considered how completely unethical it is to offer this substandard salary generally but especially now??

The worse part is, some of the salaries *for full-time employment* are similar to those of graduate students who only work part-time AND report they can't afford to live off these salaries?

The burden and disparities this is and will continue to cause higher ed are profound.

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You know what’s funny about this? Many men *sings* love to make babies because they know it’s socially acceptable for them to do the bare minimum work or none at all.

When I was in my 20s and still undecided about kids, I laid my cards on the table for the men I seriously dated—

When I laid out my expectations for procreation, they all had a aneurysm.

I didn’t even ask for a lot: marriage, private school, FL tutors, nanny/ day care, health care, house with lots of space, meal delivery service, cleaning service 2x a month, I keep my career, etc.

Now— if you grew up solidly upper middle class or better, every thing on that list is normal as hell.

But many of them went on about how I was being unreasonable. No. I realized early in my 20s that I couldn’t have the life I envisioned for myself without all those things.

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https://twitter.com/drbritwilliams/status/1360295756091936769

It’s so upsetting because so much of this is about control.

Men get online and bitch about child support every day. Reveal themselves to be lazy deadbeats every day.

I don’t know what the answer is. But women being forced into motherhood isn’t it. This can’t be real life.

https://twitter.com/drbritwilliams/status/1360295756091936769

Our foster care system is already incredibly broken and understaffed/ served.

Many children in the system experience conditions no one should be subjected to.

If men want to control pregnancy, they should use condoms, get vasectomies, and abstain.

I have so many questions.

When men try to introduce bills like this.

1. Is he on the hook for her pregnancy care?
2. If she dies in labor, is he ab accessory to her murder?
3. If a woman wants nothing to do with the child, will he be legally forced to take on 100% of the child’s care.

They don’t care

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I’m tired of TV shows doing this whole husband has a mid life crisis, leaves his wife/ family, and then he starts pining after the wife’s single, childless friend.

Single, childfree women want their own men. And we def don’t want the used up ones that are close.

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