Share this page!

Suzanne Zeedyk Profile picture
Twitter logo
8 Aug, 8 tweets, 4 min read
THREAD: Boarding school
Today's @guardian contains an excerpt from the latest book soon to be published on the emotional devastation caused to so many boys by early boarding school -- boys that grow into the leaders of this country.
theguardian.com/education/2021…
2. "Several times a year, our attachments to home & family were broken. We lost everything – and we could cry if we liked but no one would help us. So, LATER IN LIFE, WHEN WE SAW OTHER PEOPLE CRY, WE FELT NO GREAT NEED TO GO TO THEIR AID." theguardian.com/education/2021…
3. When you have a government filled with leaders who do not have the empathy to feel the pain of people they govern, then you hv an emotionally corrupt political system. Boarding school becomes dangerous not just for the damaged boys grown into men. It is dangerous for everyone.
4. Boarding school is one of the areas on which I have regularly focused, in talking about human beings' attachment needs. Here, for ex, is @tony2gammidge & @john_jonart interviewed in the #TigersAndTeddies series of 2020.
5. Here is @tony2gammidge haunting animation of boarding school, featured in my book Sabre Tooth Tigers & Teddy Bears. vimeo.com/345490289
6. Here is the very recent interview of Simon Partridge by @PiersCross1, in which Simon talks personally about British class & culture & boarding school. Simon & I recently wrote together a set of ACEs & Attachment articles for @firingthemind.
7. Here is @Okwonga recent memoir, in which he says "You don't learn shamelessness at Eton. You just perfect it there." That makes sense. Shamelessness can begin early on, in toddlerhood, in patterns of wounded attachment bonds. theguardian.com/books/2021/apr…
8/end. I'm just trying to point out: All t memoirs emergng of damaged public school boys aren't about 'them'. The books are about 'us' too. We are all caught in power networks wrought frm emotional devastation. It wd serve us if we got better at understandng t processes involved.

• • •

Missing some Tweet in this thread? You can try to force a refresh
　

Keep Current with Suzanne Zeedyk

Suzanne Zeedyk Profile picture

Stay in touch and get notified when new unrolls are available from this author!

Read all threads

This Thread may be Removed Anytime!

PDF

Twitter may remove this content at anytime! Save it as PDF for later use!

Try unrolling a thread yourself!

how to unroll video
  1. Follow @ThreadReaderApp to mention us!

  2. From a Twitter thread mention us with a keyword "unroll"
@threadreaderapp unroll

Practice here first or read more on our help page!

More from @suzannezeedyk

Suzanne Zeedyk Profile picture
5 Aug
A thread that I think lots of authors will like to see. I was at @TIGERS_UK today and there were lots of boxes in the corner, with @Waterstones written on . “Oooh! What’s in those??” I asked nosily. Here follows only a wee taste of the answer! Image
2. Your books were in the boxes at @TIGERS_UK, @childinmind & @TheBabyExpert ! Image
3. Your books were in the boxes too, @Markfinnis @BDPerry & @DrDanSiegel . I understand the order was placed because I’ve read from each of these during training events with the @TIGERS_UK team over the past year. Image
Read 5 tweets
Suzanne Zeedyk Profile picture
14 Apr
THREAD. What does the science tell us happens whn children start formal schooling too young (like early 4)? That’s what t @GiveTimeScot campaign, led by Scottish parents, is trying hard to get the rest of us to ask too. Here are some insights. Note: it’s not comfortable reading.
2. Children who are the youngest in their class struggle to make friends. 2019 study.
“Worse development of social skills and relationships in the long-term, which affects well-being and success in the labour market.” independent.co.uk/life-style/you…
3. Youngest children in a class more diagnosed with ADHD. 2019 study.
“Younger children may find it harder to concentrate in class, leading to increased diagnoses of hyperactivity = inferior academic performance & poorer peer relationships.”
webmd.com/add-adhd/news/…
Read 16 tweets
Suzanne Zeedyk Profile picture
28 Feb
THREAD. In my work on the consequences of relational experiences in childhood, I walk a line in which I try to do two things: 1) offer hope &relief &solutions; 2) foster urgency, trying to get us to see uncomfortable insights.
This is a thread on the latter - on fear in America.
2. The much respected voice @umairh has just published this piece: "American Fascism is becoming American Nazism".
You might think: "What?? In America? I know its bad, but its not that bad. The Democrats have just been elected." Think again.
3. When I was little, I went through a period where I read everythng I could get my hands on about Nazi Germany. What I was tryng to understnd was how it happened. Why didn't people just stand up to such terrible unfairness? I had to wait a long time to understnd t power of fear.
Read 14 tweets
Suzanne Zeedyk Profile picture
2 Feb
Alexander McCall Smith @McCallSmith , You were asking at tonight's @acdTuesdayTalks about mirror neurons as the basis for human morality. Below are a few pieces that explore how these are being linked. Your thinking is spot on. And yes, Hume & Smith would have been fascinated.
2. "The study confirms that genuine concern for others’ pain plays a causal role in moral dilemma judgments. In other words, a person’s refusal to [act] is due to concern for [the other person], not just their own discomfort in taking an action." newsroom.ucla.edu/releases/mirro…
3. "The paper argues that mirror neurons provide a more direct route to other minds, empathy, and moral motivation that complements the more familiar route based on conscious, verbal inference." researchgate.net/publication/24…
Read 6 tweets
Suzanne Zeedyk Profile picture
8 Jan
THREAD on conspiracy theories & attachment.
I keep seeing frustrated social media posts asking why people believe conspiracy theories. Answer: It gives a sense of control - includng belonging, predictability & safety. It's emotional regulation. Here's research to unpack that.
2. "Participants with an 'ambivalent attachment style' were more likely to believe in conspiracy theories....The findings add further evidence that attachment not only influences how a person interacts with others, but also influences world views." 2018
sciencedaily.com/releases/2018/…
3. "People have a strong need to feel positive abt the groups they belong, such as their nationality, political party & religious group. A conviction that others conspire against one's group is more likely to emerge when the group feels undervalued." 2019 onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/pdf/10.111…
Read 11 tweets
Suzanne Zeedyk Profile picture
6 Jan
THREAD. I just spent 1.5 hours on the phone to a journalist, talking about what needs to happen in our whole culture to help address the problem of our drugs deaths. I used the phrase “fierce curiosity” about 300 times. The problem isn’t drugs. The problem is blaming & shaming.
2. We need to change how we see things. We need examples of people & organisations who show us how to do that. What examples did I give her?
3. I talked about @PitteucharE & @JKnussen who changed their language from “challenging behaviour” to “distressed behaviour”. The language change takes away the blame and requires adults to get curious.
Read 13 tweets

Did Thread Reader help you today?

Support us! We are indie developers!

This site is made by just two indie developers on a laptop doing marketing, support and development! Read more about the story.

Become a Premium Member ($3/month or $30/year) and get exclusive features!

Become Premium

Too expensive? Make a small donation by buying us coffee ($5) or help with server cost ($10)

Donate via Paypal Become our Patreon

Thank you for your support!

Follow Us on Twitter!

Like this author's thread?

Get emails when @suzannezeedyk has new unrolls!

Check out other threads from @suzannezeedyk!

Read all threads by @suzannezeedyk

:(