Allistic students will project all of their insecurities on you if you use words they don't know or if you speak in a weird way or if you move funny or are in any way different.
"In the real world you have to learn to get along with people."
"Well of course people beat you up you're really obnoxious"
My PTSD remembers you assholes.
I've read that today's kids are much better than this.
Certainly anecdotally the kids I know go to a Montessori school where they say there's no bullying, and mean behavior is met with compassion and care from everyone.
Proposing “We Didn’t Start the Fire” as the official anthem of process metaphysics.
(Process metaphysics says, “there are no things, only one long ongoing verb that we create things out of as suits us but which we mistake for real when really they’re just models. So any thing is composed of past process output. There’s no vacuum.)
Drat missed the closing quotation mark but not the closing paren, now I can’t fix it!
I’m what’s known as a “good with words” autistic person. Not all autistic people take on language as a special interest and focus, but those that do often end up eloquent and compelling.
It’s because we studied and mastered communication while the rest of you were absorbing it.
Why?
Because y’all don’t understand us when we express ourselves in ways that are unusual to you.
So we work to learn your mannerisms and ways of thinking and speaking, and often it works well.
But there’s a cost. I am constantly translating in my head, it takes work.
When I am out of spoons my communication suffers. I start using words or phrases carelessly, and opening myself up to miscommunication and misunderstanding.
What absolutely sucks, though, is that with allistic people if I’m not translating no translation happens.
The more time I spend on tiktok the more I see clearly autistic people talking about how they have ADHD and not mentioning autism.
Look friends, when you have sensory issues and social challenges and emotional challenges and you see the world as one giant relation that’s autism.
There’s a ton of overlap with adhd but most adhd people don’t stim, don’t get sensory overload and while they may struggle to participate socially it’s not because they don’t understand what’s going on.
I feel increasingly like ADHD social media is erasing autistic experiences.
“Myk these lines are blurry”
Look I promise I know that, I guess I’d just like to see a little bit more blur.
Stim dancing in a blind react saying it’s your adhd just feels weird to me. I don’t want to police anyone, but like.
Not to pick on @ai_action but this is exactly what so many abled people think.
Why would you think that you understand my own capabilities better than I do? And why would you assume that based on that understanding you can ignore my boundary?
It may 100% be absolutely true that some people can do more than they think they can, with X cost under Y condition.
It's also NOT YOUR JOB to "help" them get to that point, unless they specifically ask you.
If you push a disabled person in this way they may feel pressure to collapse their boundary (because this happens constantly, and it's hard to maintain boundaries against resistance) and you'll think you've "helped" them when you don't know the cost.