Wow, it was 4 years ago when the abuse of 6 of us (plus others who have not shared) happened by a top VP of #crutoo. I often talk about the other's abuse (as we are friends) & the focus should not just be on me/us. Having said that we tried for 2 yrs on #crutoo to make it...
but the leaders above the abuser, Cru attorney & all the leaders on the abuser's team protected the VP & began a coverup that exists to this day. Plus 4 of us at our lowest moments signed an NDA (which I would never do today). I beat myself up for doing that 😪.
During those 2 yrs of post abuse, I was in professional counseling for well over 150 hrs addressing my PTSD. I was hospitalized 3 times. The staff woman was harassed by the same VP during the same time. My heart breaks for her & their family!
Then the AA couple experienced direct racial abuse, the VP struck the table in a public restaurant with his fist within inches of the couple w/ age. White supremacy & ugly racism was lived out & again #crutoo did nothing about any of these other abuses. The cover-up began!
When we fled #crutoo we simply could not stay in a ministry that never put the VP on a leave of absence. Never had an independent investigation. HR did not protect any of us abused & being in the orgs Religious Order we could not hire our own attorneys.
Remember that #crutoo is a Religious Order & being a missionary all of our 1st & 14th Amendment rights are taken away by the RO. Read this disturbing doc of #crutoo:
I/we have continued professional counseling & EMDR has had the greatest positive results. I am now ready & equipped with tools to emotionally handle what is before us.
Pray as we trust to find a professional, victim-centered journalist that can kindly let us break our NDA by going public with our story. We desire a journalist that writes for a national newspaper or magazine with a long track record of respect for victims! But is professional!
“Public disclosure is also the LAST resort for victims. It is employed when private channels fail, usually because those in authority or who are peers with the abuser refuse to act.” -@R_Denhollander
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1. Fear & intimidation run wild in the Christian org we fled two years ago with an NDA. Because of the nature of the abuses to us & other missionary staff, we consider the abuse issues to be very serious & urgent in being fully disclosed.
2. Unless there are significant steps taken to address the abuser(s) & the organization’s practices, it seems this story should be exposed to the public regardless of our NDA's. (My abuse ended in PTSD & my great struggle at the time of signing the NDA was my disassociation/fear
3. Word clearly states, “Acquitting the guilty and condemning the innocent—the Lord detests them both.”-Proverbs 17:15
I was confronted by a person recently, "just break the NDA & get on with it". Not that easy! Some of us who are missionaries do not have a boatload of monies to hire attorney's & once you have been abused (resulting in PTSD) one will fight or flight. I am a fighter but when your
up against a $633/million dollar supposed Christian org; that has multiple attorney's working for them; have a Religious Order that muffles the voices of ALL present staff in the org; & leadership from the President and & BOD who will not do a 3rd party independent investigation
it is devastating, it can totally wear you out, it affects your health, mental health, spiritual health, and the list goes on & on. The recent letter I got from the Pres (that protects the VP) stated clearly in his letter to me they will not agree to any of these '5 demands':
This profound quote depicts the VP abuser of a mega para-church ministry. I worked under this narcissistic VP for 5+ yrs. It was hell and it ended with him abusing a number of us in a urban ministry. Gaslighting was 100% in his DNA for nearly everything he did or said.
His spiritual, emotional, psychological abuses; along with his harassment of a staff woman and his constant pattern of threats & secrecy made it impossible to trust him and the complicit leaders over him—who knew what he was doing. The abuses led to PTSD (hospitalization & years
of counseling); to a staff woman harassed who was not allowed any outside legal counsel; to a Black couple who experienced discrimination, racism & physical threats; to entire leadership team who resigned over his leadership. But what makes it worst is the lead HR person covered
As we struggle w/ possibly declaring our story regardless of our NDA we deal w/ the para-church ministry, which abused us & others. The org is so wealthy & so powerful that they would want to squash us with legal proceedings & sue us for damage. Ministry takes in $633 million/yr
and they have an army of attorneys and PR firms at their whim. Plus being missionaries for 45 yrs it's not like we have $$ to spend on hiring our own attorney. But the truth must be told for the sake of other missionaries still there & those who left the org abused and fearful.
Please pray for us to have wisdom as I battle PTSD from the VP abuse & the other leaders complicit with the VP. Grateful for counsel from a few legal experts & so many on Twitter who have cared. Plus we watched as the truth became clear for @LoriAnneThomps2 & we rejoiced for her