So many people fancy themselves some kind of "giant slayer" on here. Treating people with "big megaphones" like targets that need to be taken down a notch whenever they say something you disagree with. People need to get a handle on what this environment is doing to them.
I've gone through a lot of different phases in my relationship with twitter. There have been several occasions where I had to step back from the edge because I was doing way too much. This place turns good people into assholes without them even understanding what they've become.
When people get put on blast, they almost always accuse me of being "obsessed". They wanna do their dirt in replies where they think only a few people will see. When you shine a light, all of a sudden you're being mean to them.
I wanna repeat my personal guideline around quote tweeting.
I don't quote people just to "dunk" on them. I'm not "chasing clout" either. But if you've been given a chance to be more considerate, and you've declined, it's fair game.
And the reason I provide examples is because if you don't, people will act like they don't understand what you're talking about. People want examples, they just don't want it to be them. And when it is them, they don't learn anything.
If you haven't developed personal guidelines around how you will engage with social media, I highly recommend that you do. Make sure the way you show up on here is intentional and matches with your values. Otherwise, you *will* regret where you eventually find yourself.
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Sure. But in order to do that, I should unpack New Bullshit just a little. I sometimes speak in memes because I wanna be one of the cool kids. But the context matters here.
When I refer to New Bullshit at new jobs, it's mostly about adapting to change. Humans are highly adaptable. But we go through periods of stress and frustration whenever we have to change. Switching jobs brings a huge amount of change that it takes time to adjust to.
There is a lot of uncertainty that comes with the change. It's one thing to know a change is coming and try to find ways to prepare for it. But when you go into a new job, you can't really be prepared for a lot of the changes. You don't know until you're in it.
This is a great thread. Not because I agree with everything in it. I don’t actually. It’s great because it gives more context on how to think about various important career decisions. It’s important to develop a perspective on how you think about your career moves.
It’s worth acknowledging that Corey is a white guy. So all of his advice should be viewed through that lens. There are certain kinds of career challenges that he just doesn’t have. And it affects how he makes decisions. I believe he’s more self-aware than most about that reality.
In most cases, I agree with the core point, but I would add more nuance.
For example, are you making your manager’s life more difficult by quitting? Yes.
Should they hold that against you personally? No.
Will the company be okay? Almost certainly yes.
People find this thread again about once a month. It brings a new wave of Black people saying "yep" and white people getting mad and calling me "the real racist".
That's not surprising. What I always find amusing is the white people who show up loud and angry, but also want to paint me as the "close-minded" one. Thousands of Black people talking about our experience is "insanity". Because Whiteness is rightness.
Also, every single time white people find this thread and get mad, not one person actually asks me what "real talk" means. Even though I did the courtesy of putting it in quotes to signal that we're probably talking about something more than just the literal words.
I don't talk about my daughter very often on here. Because y'all don't know how to act. But I wanna talk about parenting for a minute.
In the last 6 years or so, I have learned a lot about what makes parenting difficult. And obviously I've become biased when it comes to the way people talk about it and the judgments people make about parents.
This is an important aspect of the "worker shortage" conversation. People are trying to figure out why. And the emphasis is mostly on "wages are too low". Housing and locality is just as big a factor. This has been a growing problem, but the pandemic exploded it.
One of the underlying problems is how we reconcile "people with too much money". I'm biased here. Because I have become one of those people they're talking about. But this isn't the right conversation to be having. I don't feel bad that I can afford the too high cost of living.
If you don't have money, and then tomorrow you did, you should probably go buy a house and secure safety and comfort yourself too. And you shouldn't feel bad about that. The question is what should "people with too much money" be doing to change the situation in general.