"But Myk, that's intolerant, why are you calling someone out publicly to thousands of people just because you disagree with their politics?"
Hating trans people isn't politics, it's values. When someone shares their values with you you believe them.
This person isn't safe.
When someone tells you "I am a racist";
When someone tells you "I hate gay people";
When someone tells you "Trans people are just mentally ill";
That person is saying "I do not see everyone as equally human" and in our community it's important to know who those people are.
Also, autistic people: a lot of you are probably thinking “this person may have made a mistake but they think they’re doing the right thing.”
That really can confuse the issue, because we want to believe people act in good faith and want to give the benefit of the doubt. BUT!
A lot of terfs, racists, sexists and homophobes use “good” values like family and protecting women and etc as stories to justify their harm. Often they fool themselves.
We don’t have to accept those stories. Someone can have “good” intentions and cause harm. That matters.
Before you rush to empathize with the transphobe, take a moment and realize that by doing that you’re refusing to empathize with her victims.
This stuff can be complex, but it isn’t always complex. Just look at who has power.
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Thank you especially to @AnnMemmott and @AutSciPerson for leading the charge on this. They are both leaders in our community and you should follow them if you don’t.
Yikes, wow, unfollowing now. Was a big fan of successfully and predictably replicating measurements to prove theories, did NOT know about the total inability to engage meaningfully with the subjective domain of experience.
But yikes, unfollowing now. I was a huge fan of its ability to treat illness using scientific rigor, I did NOT know it pathologized everything it didn’t understand and normalized anything it couldn’t address.
Big yikes, unfollowing now. Was a huge fan of the ability to use numeric values to explore relational truths, did NOT realize it was impossible to do this with any kind of internal consistency without injecting external context and meaning.
I take Vyvanse for my ADHD but I don't spend all day thinking about my next pill.
I eat food to stay alive, but I don't spend every moment thinking about my next meal.
And yet with weed if I'm not smoking I'm thinking about it. That feels unhealthy, I'm not using it as a tool.
Last night I was weak, and I ended up putting a ton of pressure on my accountability buddy when they didn't need that kind of pressure. I wasn't looking for support, I was looking for permission to lapse. And only I can give that to me.
I have decided that I want to have a weed relapse. But doing so involves disappointing people I promised to be accountable to. And now I don’t know what to do I feel like I’m betraying myself no matter what choice I make.
I hate that I am an addict.
I stopped smoking because I was smoking too much. But I made a stupid mistake: a couple of days ago I realized I could scrape a tiny bit of resin out of my grinder.
I have had, over the past 3 days, a number of desperate and utterly disappointing resin hits.
“Sobriety” indeed.
Now I’m so so so wired for it, primes, I just want to smoke one for damned bit of actual flower so that I can finish this promise that resin made to my body.