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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished My mom had at kids at 17, 19, 32, 42 (me) 43 & 45 My sister at 17, 19, 41, & 43. Me at 35. I'm terribly grateful the values I was raised with were at least 25-30 yrs behind the times (here were not taking racism sexism homophobia- that was NEVER part of my upbringing).
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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished They've stood me in good stead all my life.

There are some perks w/age & wisdom you can't put a price on.

The differences I noticed; my parents took us to museums, plays, dance performances & work, not movies; & had us conversing with adults (they had interesting
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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished overseas friends who came to visit, sometimes months at a time) who broadened what we thought about and knew.

We weren't allowed to watch TV till 8 yrs old & even then only 3 hours for "special" Sunday shows (something I repeated with my daughter).

My back yard
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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished was "the backyard baseball spot" for all the neighborhood kids (thanks to my dad) & was the "place to be", on Saturday/Sunday during the day for scavenger hunts that required youook up history or science facts to solve the clues.....

They were less caught up
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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished in keeping up with the Jones as they'd OUTGROWN THAT PHASE (if they'd had one) & more interested in what the Jones might need.

And were much more interested in each of us being ourselves even if that meant "going or making your own way, or went against what was
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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished considered legal or moral, that might not be either. The question was always "what do you think the right thing to do is?" And ok let's think that through/apply that and see what happens. My dad read yours nightly for
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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished hours starting with fairy tales from all over the world; big thick volumes of them (we were not exactly White so this was in contrast to what we got every day at school) all the OZ books through to David Theroux Dickins etc...& played board games and card games all the time

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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished Yes all that was decidedly different than my peers who were living on TV, TV dinners & being seen at the country club. And I can't say that at times I'd wished I wasiving their lives, but only because I didn't know any better at the time

So, did that sting at times?
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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished Sure, but some of those "stings" are unavoidable no matter what you do.

MORE GERMANE TO YOUR QUESTION some of those "stings" prompt the kind of internal conflict that when resolved determines the kind of person you are/become and what you value!
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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished There's nothing wrong w/ 40 & up.
IT DEPENDS ON WHO YOU ARE; THE PARENTS OR THE WOMAN CHOICE. I know many parents who should have waited at least 10 years if not forever because being too immature to be good parents really is A THING;
no matter what age you are.
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@mj_ruleoflaw @StatenIrished So how old were my parents when they had me?

42 & 50.

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