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Adam Lane Smith

@TheBrometheus

12 Sep

Women with broken attachment believe there is something wrong with them that makes them permanently unlovable. They believe everyone else can see it but not them, they don’t know what’s wrong. They just feel abandoned and unloved.

What would you do if you could never be loved?

When your attachment is broken and you believe you’re innately unloveable, you use any means necessary to earn approval. It’s living based on fear instead of principles.

And it’s not rational because the logical brain is diminished to fuel chronic anxiety in the emotional brain.

Many women in hookup culture believe they’re going to find a meaningful connection. They don’t realize they’re being used for masturbation.

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Adam Lane Smith

@TheBrometheus

11 Aug

If your approach relies on insulting anyone who doesn’t follow your approach

(“If you don’t agree with me you’re X, Y, and Z”)

you’re using manipulation instead of persuasion. That tells me you’re hunting for short-term gains at the expense of my long-term best interests.

It’s usually couched as moralizing: “If you don’t agree with us you’re evil and you enjoy harming people.”

This sets up the speaker as a super special moral authority. The 3 groups I see use this tactic most are social justice groups, vegan groups, and no-spank parenting groups.

Note that this is MOSTLY a feature of groups. Individual vegans who decide on their own don’t typically treat people this way. But vegan gurus with followings (thus forming a group) who need to build a paying fanbase do. It polarizes their audience and makes them seem important.

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Adam Lane Smith

@TheBrometheus

31 Jul

In my years as a family therapist, 1 approach worked consistently to get angry and defiant little kids to be loving and obedient:

10-minute sessions EVERY DAY with each child where the parent just asked questions, paid attention, and showed them love.

Stopped so many behaviors.

Some played Go-Fish, some colored pictures, just just sat together. No screens. 10, literally timed on a countdown clock they could both see. Questions and questions with no advice or directions or scolding. Just interviewing with interest as if the parent cared about their child

10 minutes a day with each child turned things around even for families with older kids who were starting to use physical violence against adults to express their anger.

Being treated like they were loved changed their entire behavior pattern. Imagine that.

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Adam Lane Smith

@TheBrometheus

25 Jul

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As @MrsBrometheus and I enter the 2nd trimester with our 4th child, here’s a list of parental DOs and DON’Ts.

DO let your kids fight out their disputes (within reason) so they learn to manage family conflict.

DON’T toss a knife between them and tell them to “play for keeps.”

DO encourage your child to explore the world (in safe environments) without holding your hand so they learn to try new things on their own.

DON’T airdrop your child into the Appalachian wilderness with nothing but a hatchet and instructions to “make me proud.”

DO help them grow beyond imaginary friends by encouraging more real world friends.

DON’T tell them you murdered their imaginary friends so if they see them again it’s a malicious ghost seeking vengeance.

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Adam Lane Smith

@TheBrometheus

30 Jun

Hollywood trains young people to believe someday they’ll be uplifted from their mediocre lives for being secretly special.

Harry Potter
Lord of the Rings
Star Wars

Magical old wizard saying “Oh hey, sorry I ignored you but you’re special.”

Are you waiting for a wizard?

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I started out in poverty with fleas coming in through the walls and rats in the ceiling from dirty neighbors. Food stamps, eating food the gas station threw away. I worked hard at school and improving myself and raised my family above poverty.

No one came to uplift me. I worked.

I worked because I realized no rich relative was going to appear and help me. I wouldn’t win the lottery, and politicians didn’t actually care about helping me. It was entirely on me alone.

I realized my choices were stupid and shortsighted and I had to change and be better.

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Adam Lane Smith

@TheBrometheus

12 Jun

Few realize that modern culture is a sham invented in the 1950s and 60s by the CIA to combat Communism with a false rennaissance.

Sounds sketchy? Follow me down the rabbit hole. newyorker.com/magazine/2005/…

When WWII ended, the West was left horrified by the growing threat of communism in Russia. And Americans as former British colonists had always felt looked down upon by Europeans for being backwater hicks without sophistication. Look up the lyrics to Yankee Doodle Dandy.

Russia at the time was spreading propaganda about how fantastic communism could be. Their old culture and architecture had blossomed into a new renaissance from 1880 to 1950. They looked like a cultural powerhouse. America saw this as a problem. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Russian_R…

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