🤷♀️
dude maybe next time you're going to sexually harass a woman, don't do it via FB messenger or anything else so easily screenshotted
dude maybe next time you're going to sexually harass a woman, don't do it via FB messenger or anything else so easily screenshotted
and given that this has happened a few times, let's review how this always seems to go down:
-I call out a shitty dude publicly, generally with receipts
-there's some Twitter Discourse, a few people are like I'm not working with that person again, but mostly, nothing happens 1/x
-I call out a shitty dude publicly, generally with receipts
-there's some Twitter Discourse, a few people are like I'm not working with that person again, but mostly, nothing happens 1/x
-A bunch of men in the game industry are like, "I don't know, there might be SOMETHING to it, but probably it isn't THAT bad."
-The guy I called out is, eventually, shitty to a guy in the industry (in this case, Luke Gygax, IIRC).
2/x
-The guy I called out is, eventually, shitty to a guy in the industry (in this case, Luke Gygax, IIRC).
2/x
-A bunch of men in the game industry are like, "WHOA, I guess he WAS shitty after all!"
-There are consequences.
-The story becomes that I, with my awesome power of determining who lives and dies, single-handedly drove the guy from the industry.
-There are consequences.
-The story becomes that I, with my awesome power of determining who lives and dies, single-handedly drove the guy from the industry.
Anyway, just to remind everyone, after I told Frank to stop sending me gross messages--BEFORE I said anything publicly--he went on a rant about how he'd make sure I never worked in the industry again.
Anyway, perhaps someday we will reach the point where more people with actual power in the industry start noticing that
men who are shitty to me
are also shitty to other people
BEFORE those men are shitty to them personally
but I don't see that happening soon.
men who are shitty to me
are also shitty to other people
BEFORE those men are shitty to them personally
but I don't see that happening soon.
like literally the number of times I've had the conversation:
me: [game industry dude] was pretty awful to me
male industry colleague #1: I've never heard that he's been anything but a good guy
me: ok
another industry person: he was shitty to me too
me: [game industry dude] was pretty awful to me
male industry colleague #1: I've never heard that he's been anything but a good guy
me: ok
another industry person: he was shitty to me too
male industry colleague #1: I've never heard that he's been anything but a good guy
another industry person: actually he was shitty to me too
...months later
male industry colleague #1: I'm sorry, I should have believed you
me: heh, what changed your mind?
another industry person: actually he was shitty to me too
...months later
male industry colleague #1: I'm sorry, I should have believed you
me: heh, what changed your mind?
male industry colleague #1: he was really shitty to me!
like, with at least 10 people, I have had this conversation
like, with at least 10 people, I have had this conversation
And like, what gets lost in this is that ultimately, he got what he wanted: I no longer work in tabletop games.
Like, I do the occasional freelancing for friends' projects, but that's it.
Like, I do the occasional freelancing for friends' projects, but that's it.
I don't generally even take on new mentees, because my focus these days is largely on helping women get *out* of games if they want to, and I can't advise people on how to get into an industry this abusive, so 100% of the mentoring I do that isn't helping people get out...
...is focused on just helping people *survive.*
Y'all got your wish.
Y'all got your wish.
• • •
Missing some Tweet in this thread? You can try to
force a refresh
