i feel like we put up with subpar treatment from others bc we don’t celebrate ourselves enough. it’s known that what we tolerate in relationships tends to be directly correlated to our self-esteem. therefore, regularly checking in to speak kindness over ourselves, probably…
helps reduce this likelihood. we hear about positive self-talk and affirmations all the time but do we actually do it? and what does that even mean? check in with yourself regularly. celebrate your little victories. did you communicate better this week than you ever have before?
did you try your best in a class or task and exceed your own expectations? do you do a good job at regulating your emotions or at least not letting them make you project onto others or act in toxic ways? all of these things matter.
if we don’t keep inventory of all the things that make us a good friend or partner, we end up accepting some really crappy behavior from people bc we forget about what we bring to the table.
if we celebrated our improvement in communication, introspection and acceptance of accountability, it would be hard to accept a lack of this in someone else. it would be hard to tolerate it when all you really desire is that reciprocity.
don’t get caught in the trap of trying to teach them to be better for you either. it’s sweet of you to want to, but it’s a slippery slope. because if they aren’t ready to improve. if they aren’t at a place in their life where they even want to improve.
you can try to teach them until you’re blue in the face, ain’t shit changing. instead of expending precious energy trying to carry people up to where we are currently at in life. let’s give ourselves our flowers so that we can better embrace people who can meet us where we are at
speak. kindness. over. yourself. you are worthy and deserving. you try too hard every damn day to water yourself down like that. it’s criminal. life is too short and you’ve worked too hard. period. 😌🌷💛
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