Scenes from a Marriage s1e1, and I’m once more confident that there’s nothing more embarrassment-inducing than being around a couple arguing.
Also apropos: Oscar Isaac is such a fine man.
There’s so much that goes into us being able to get this representation on marriage and wanting/having a baby. Not least of which is women being more open about what having a baby is really like. I’m grateful for that work.
Thanks a feminist today, folks :)
I’m DYING at how selfish this woman is.
LMFAOOOO she’s honestly putting her pain from walking away at par with his pain from being abandoned??? What an asshole she is! 😂😂😂
She’s torturing this poor man. Gosh.
S1e4. This conversation. Wow.
The easy familiarity of being with someone for so long is really seductive in its own way. You could get lured into safety very easily.
This woman is so used to getting what she wants from him. Lmaoooo
this woman is unhinged.
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So I spent the morning yesterday visiting project sites in village communities outside of Yola where there are informal banking clusters. These clusters have been in operation at least 3 years, at most 5. This particular 3yr one has 25 women in it. Ave. loan repayment? 100%.
This is the first session for the new cycle. You buy “shares” worth 200 Naira each, and the amount of shares determine how much you can borrow. Highest amount borrowed this year, 63k. Lowest, 16k. Loans used for stuff like buying engines for Agro processing or school fees.
I think that one of the reasons many Nigerian marriages are a sham is because we have made giving a shit about someone sound like the worst thing. I get it, people can be shitty. But I think it also stops people from being as emotionally invested as they should.
It’s a wonder how much of our actions is driven by the logic of “it’s going to end anyway, so let me not be the idiot that got fooled by this person.” We end up doing awful things and hurting people because at least we get to control that.
So I want to talk about something that’s bothered me since I read about it. It’s about the 13yo boy in Kano sentenced to 10yrs in prison for blasphemy.
Like a lot of us, I read it and it saddened me, but i was determined to unlook. There’s so much in this country to get one down, and in a lot of instances we have to choose between the paralysis of helpless despair and the stoicism of propelling onwards with our lives.
However, the larger systemic things that militate against us as Nigerians manifest themselves also in small ways. Indeed, the endless killings in different parts of the country and the ease with which we condemn young lives to death or cruel sentences are one and the same.
Dinner prep. This has been marinading for 24hrs. Time to get some color on it before I put it in the oven to braise.
Meat browned, then sautéed some onions and garlic, hella fresh thyme, brown sugar. Then added some stock and, um, Guinness. Now, to braise in the oven for ~2hrs.