Oct. 11 is #InternationalDayoftheGirl. Every day should be a day when we uphold girls and their right to thrive and to be free of violence. #DayOfTheGirl
What if we nurtured and encouraged the expression of anger in girls the same way we encouraged reading skills: as necessary for their navigation of the world? feministgiant.com/p/how-much-is-… #DayOfTheGirl
Imagine a girl justifiably enraged at her mistreatment. Imagine if we acknowledged her justifiable anger so that a girl understood she’d be heard if anyone abused her & that her anger was just as important a trait as honesty.

What kind of woman would such a girl grow up to be?
I believe all girls are born with what I call a pilot light of anger that flared at injustice.

What happens to it as they grow into women?

feministgiant.com/p/how-much-is-… #InternationalDayoftheGirl
We must teach girls that their anger is a valuable weapon in defying, disobeying & disrupting patriarchy, which pummels and kills the anger out of girls.
It socializes them to acquiesce and to be compliant, because obedient girls grow up to become obedient foot-soldiers of the patriarchy.

They grow up to internalize its rules, which are used to police other women who disobey. #DayOfTheGirl
From a very young age girls around the world are told that they are vulnerable and weak.

By the age of 10, research shows they believe it. Conversely, boys are fed the stereotype that they are strong and independent. feministgiant.com/p/how-much-is-…
Girls are born with plenty of rage already, but we squash it.

They are taught to be polite, to be well-behaved, and to not make a scene.

We tell them not to raise their voice and not to speak too much.

I want to bottle-feed rage to every baby girl so that it fortifies her bones and muscles. I want her to flex and feel the power growing inside her as she herself grows from a child into a young woman.
I want girls to grow up with their pilot light of anger tenacious and sure of its right to flare whenever treated unjustly. 

I want girls to grow up knowing that angry women are free women.

feministgiant.com/p/how-much-is-… #DayOfTheGirl #InternationalDayOfTheGirl2021

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12 Oct
I've been going out the most since the pandemic and I don't know if this is just what I want to see or if it's actually happening but so many people are kinder, softer, freer with compliments and kind words.

I wrote about grief literacy and I wonder if this is what we're doing.
Those of us who did not die must prepare to take our individual grief out into the world, find our place in communal mourning & nurturing, whisper to each other’s hearts “We know you’re strong.Look at what you survived. You can be soft here, we’ve got you” feministgiant.com/p/essay-some-o…
The title of my essay is from the poet June Jordan who asked soon after 9/11: “I realized that regardless of the tragedy, regardless of the grief, regardless of the monstrous challenge, Some of Us Have Not Died. Some of us did NOT die…And what shall we do, we who did not die?”
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11 Oct
“You risk childlessness.” Ha! For those of us who are childfree by choice and happy I say loudly: “risk” it!
I have never wondered what it would have been like to have children. I say that because we often hear “you’ll regret it when it’s too late.” Well, here I am on the other side -- it is “too late” -- and I am here to say: I do not regret it. feministgiant.com/p/unmothering
I am writing a book about being childfree by choice and happy.

Until I finish it, read my essays and subscribe to FEMINIST GIANT. It’s free - no paywall or ads.

If you can pay, it helps keep it free.

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11 Oct
Every time I see Ashli Babbitt trending, I will remind you:

Ashli Babbitt never imagined the Capitol Police would shoot her because the police rarely shoot white women, unless it’s a cop who shoots his wife at home. #AshliBabbitt #January6th

She never imagined she'd survive fighting for regime change “over there” only to die fighting for regime change “over here.” A 14yr Air Force vet who fought in Iraq & Afghanistan, she was the only person shot by Capitol Police while trying to storm the Congress of her own country
So eager of a footsoldier of white supremacist patriarchy was #AshliBabbitt that she was the first to scramble through a window in a door separating the insurrectionists from an area where members of Congress were sheltering from the mob.
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10 Oct
As a legal tug of war continues over the Texas law that bans nearly all abortion care in the second largest state in the US, this is a useful article that places abortion laws in the US in a global context. washingtonpost.com/world/interact…
I have had an "illegal" abortion in Egypt and a "legal" one in the US.
I use inverted commas because I reject the State’s attempt to control my uterus. The State can fuck off with its opinions about what I can and can’t do with my uterus. That control belongs to me. feministgiant.com/p/abortion-is-…
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29 Sep
Every time I write something I think is brave, I think "That's the bravest I'll ever be." And every time I start a new essay, I ask myself "Am I not brave?" Yes, I am. But courage wilts & withers when it is not challenged, like muscles that need heavier weights. So I dare myself
The above is about abortion. This is about shaving all my hair off. Always, always, whatever scares me the most, in just the thinking about doing it, is what I need to do the most.

Since publishing my essay about my abortions, I'm reminded of this:

I think twice, thrice, and often more before I share moments of vulnerability on social media. feministgiant.com/p/essay-fallin…
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28 Sep
After my first abortion 25yrs ago, I couldn't talk to anyone about it. Instead, I would endlessly search for stories on abortion, to nurture my need for support and community. If that is you today on #InternationalSafeAbortionDay, I hope my essay helps you. Love and solidarity.
Here I am finally sharing for my younger self who had no one to talk to about her abortions; for anyone who recognizes that their abortion is considered especially shameful or outrageous because it does not follow the few acceptable abortion narratives. feministgiant.com/p/abortion-is-…
The personal is political, of course. Where I come from, the personal is more dangerous than the political.

I am from a country w/ the greatest number of women & girls in the world whose genitals have been cut in the name of controlling female sexuality refworld.org/pdfid/5a17eee4… Text: With an FGM prevalence of 87.2% among all women aged 1
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