Thread by @HZiauddeen

This is a very hard one. I was incredibly shaken by a couple of such experiences recently.
I think to get through this disaster you need to look after yourself, find the support of and in turn support, those who understand. Because we're in this for the long haul.
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https://twitter.com/LynneB09917052/status/1449662731888611330

As much as we want to save our friends, we need to figure out quickly if they can be helped and how much effort it will take to do it, and what the emotional cost will be for ourselves.

I can only offer my own approach here.
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This is my view:
You can only help people through compassion*.
Your capacity for compassion is not limitless.
What you need to find in the other person is a compassion for others.

*Unless there is some kind of personal gain that is motivating you.
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This is necessary for them to change and for you to keep persevering with them.
In many situations, you can start with them having compassion for you.
Here however the stakes are much higher and you need to start with compassion for others.
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If despite your best efforts, they cannot have compassion for those who have died, the bereaved, those who have lost their health (these are the undeniable losses); if they dismiss these as acceptable in any way, if they keep going 'yes, but...', that's where I give up.
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For all that people may want to point to other factors and other consequences, the truth is that everything else has followed from failing to control the pandemic.
That this somehow remains contentious is one of the most depressing aspects of this disaster.
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