Please elevate the story of #EngraciaFigueroa, a disabled Afro-Latina woman who died from injuries sustained by not having her wheelchair after @united destroyed hers. This is a #BlackLivesMatter issue. Anti- ableism must be part of our work.
Neglect is harmful yall! Removing the things we need to live is violent, disabled or not. It is allowing our death while blaming our bodyminds for being what they are. I’ve only seen #DisabilityTwitter folks talking about this & many not using #BLM but #BlackDisabledLivesMatter!
Yall #WereHereHBO has a fucking HOLD on me. Literally therapeutic for my small town raised queer emotional ass. Every single episode has me WEEEEPING. @thatonequeen, @itsSHANGELA, @eurekaohara & their team have created a truly remarkably authentic, good queer show.
Basic summary: They go into small towns & do drag shows with local queer & allied people. You witness the visible impact on individuals and communities. A powerful reminder that we are everywhere & that loving queer community is vital to our wellbeing.
It would have meant to world to me to see out fabulous queer people in my tiny ass small town in Kentucky as a kid/teen. I didn’t know our queer people until I went to college. It blew my fucking mind. Go watch #werehere yall! Feel good real queer shit.
OMG I watched one episode of the new Marie Kondo series, got super jazzed to clean & organize my house for like 2 hours then was like “fuck this is exhausting” & went back to watching TV. I know myself, this cycle will repeat until I finish the series.
After the first series I went did a deep cleanse of my wardrobe & I continue to do regular closet purges, but I really struggle to apply the methods to the rest of my house. I feel like my house is 30% unfinished projects most of the time.
“Projects” being everything from that bookshelf I bought on Facebook marketplace a month ago intending to add legs & maybe stain it to a bag of apples from the orchard I still need to bake into pie.
My social justice lit students discussed the proposed ban on anti-sexism & anti-racism education & the potential effects as part of a creative writing workshop. We read the bill & some of the letters of support & opposition then imagined a world 10 years from now if it passed.
We worked out a bunch of details of the world including key events that would happen: student protests, underground GWS classes, professors being surveilled, & a legislative controlled board that has to approve all readings & assignments for UW Madison classes.
Next class we’re going to make character profiles for people in this future dystopian world then write about them. Students will revise these quick in-class writings into short short stories for their midterm.
3 year anniversary of when, at a campus show, Michael Kosta told a thinly veiled rape joke, mocked the Me Too movement by claiming he’s going to teach his daughter to profit off sexual harassment accusations, used pussy as an insult repeatedly, & told feminists to suck his dick…
I booed loudly at the last one out of pure exhaustion with his shitty set. He not only spoke back to me from the stage, but he also felt the need to air his hurt feelings to his followers. He said multiple times in his set that it’s a hard time to be a straight white man.
The show, I’ll note, was the evening after Kavanaugh had been appointed at the end of his hearings. I responded to the tweet & several folks publicly echoed their displeasure with the set as well. Later, 3 different students e-mailed thanking me, including a survivor.
I’m beginning the process of getting permanent surgical birth control, likely a tubal ligation. I’m so excited. I can’t wait to never worry about getting pregnant ever again.
Today my doctor made the referral to gynecology. Just getting that appointment will take weeks. From there I will hopefully be able to schedule surgery which will take several more weeks. This was just step 2 (step one was scheduling this appointment to get the referral).
I first wanted non-hormonal birth control around 26 so I tried an IUD but they couldn’t get it in. The doctor literally said that I “have an unusually narrow cervix” but said most doctors won’t consider permanent/surgical birth control options for child free women until after 35.
The parent friends in my life don’t force their kids to engage with adults & I enthusiastically support it by responding positively, with gratitude, when a child chooses to wave or high five me instead of a hug. I affirm that all the ways they choose to engage with me are good.
Even when kids are feeling shy or angry & hid behind parents I will still say bye & that it was nice to see them because it was. Shaming kids, or anyone, for not being in the mood or not having the capacity to perform certain social etiquette norms is damaging & frankly ableist.
Generally I find that because I affirm kids’ choices on how to engage early on, they warm up to me way faster even when we don’t know each other well. I learned a lot being a nanny & from feminist mothers in my circles.