People react to you based on how you train them to, many times.

Sounds weird but bare with me.

Each person has a perception of you in their mind.

This perception is based on habits, how they usually perceive you.

If you help people a lot, they'll think that you're nice.
If you make fun of them a lot, they'll think that you are not that nice.

If every time they see you you'll have friends around you, they'll think that you're socially savvy or well connected.

Does it mean that you are any of these things? Not necessarily.
They see a part of you, and make it 100% of your self image.

I first realized this when I was in a training camp with new people I didn't know at all.

I made a lot of jokes, had fun, and made people laugh in general.
After 3 days of getting to know each other, everyone literally laughed every time I said something.

Anything. Even when I was serious.

It was like an automatic reaction. They perceived anything I said as funny.

That was weird to me...

But I understood something.
You train people to react to you a certain way by showing a part of you that demonstrates how you want to be perceived.

Then, even when you'll behave in a way that's the exact opposite, you'll receive the habitual reaction you usually receive.
If you are always kind hearted, you can say something controversial and everyone will first try to look for the good in what your said.

They won't twist it negatively like they would if someone else said it.
This is also a great reminder why you shouldn't be emotionally invested in what people think of you.

Most don't know you. Some know 10% of you, some know 50%, 80%...

But they all take this part of you and turn it into 100% of who you are in their minds.
Most people don't like you. Most people don't hate you.

They can't, because they are not reacting to who you truly are.

Detach yourself emotionally from opinions for the benefit of inner peace.
This thread is mostly a friendly reminder.

A reminder that you can care less about others opinions

And a reminder to pay attention to how you demonstrate yourself in different environments.
For example, if you have a side of you that's serious and smart, and a side of you that is silly and fools around sometimes...

You should show a bit of both, or only the one you prefer early on the interaction or more often.
Because people will pick the side that you express the most and make it 100% of how they perceive you in their mind.

Be clever.
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