Josh Duggar has been found guilty on two counts of downloading and possessing CSAM. So much grief for the survivors, and for everyone caught in the cross hairs. Perhaps most disturbing however is how the patterns noted in this earlier post, played out...
facebook.com/10004719348381…
facebook.com/10004719348381…
Despite clear evidence, there was no grief at what was, but rather a continual effort to thwart justice and deny. From a family member who changed his testimony on the stand, to a father who "couldn't remember" the abuse of his own four daughters, to a wife who held his hand...
The focus continued to be the living out of the same twisted theology that led us here.
The situation for everyone is devastating, but acting as though this isn't serious only furthers the devastation.
What Anna needs is someone to validate how evil this is, and grieve with her
The situation for everyone is devastating, but acting as though this isn't serious only furthers the devastation.
What Anna needs is someone to validate how evil this is, and grieve with her
Repentance can only come when the depth of guilt is felt. Healing can only come when the full truth of the wound is acknowledged. Safety can only arise when the danger is admitted and fled.
I ache tonight. Not only that the evil was done, though that is heavy enough,
I ache tonight. Not only that the evil was done, though that is heavy enough,
But that it is still unacknowledged, ungrieved, and by that then, minimized and excused.
This is a good time to reflect also on the long term realities that survivors face, and where that responsibility lies.
The survivors of Josh's earlier abuse have now, yet again, had to see their stories brought out. These charges resurrected the old stories,
The survivors of Josh's earlier abuse have now, yet again, had to see their stories brought out. These charges resurrected the old stories,
And the survivors once again, had no choice.
And while most survivors won't necessarily have their stories as headlines, it's very true that at any point their stories can be resurrected too, with no real choice given to them.
And while most survivors won't necessarily have their stories as headlines, it's very true that at any point their stories can be resurrected too, with no real choice given to them.
The guilt for the immediate consequences of abuse lies with the abuser. But so does every moment of consequence that follows.
We need to grapple with that reality, and mindsets that blame shift or feed enabling.
We need to grapple with that reality, and mindsets that blame shift or feed enabling.
Justice has been done insofar as it can be, and it is good that we rejoice in that.
But remember that tomorrow everyone wakes up still living the consequences. Don't lose that reality in the midst of sober rejoicing in the truth.
But remember that tomorrow everyone wakes up still living the consequences. Don't lose that reality in the midst of sober rejoicing in the truth.
• • •
Missing some Tweet in this thread? You can try to
force a refresh
