A woman is ruled by dual emotion each month. She is ruled by sexual confidence one half and emotional vulnerability the next. This creates a feeling of certainty in her spirit as she must battle against her own perception.
This irrational feeling of self is like a woman head is spinning. And from this spinning and vulnerable state she will look to others to stabilize herself. A woman left spinning alone goes mad and sinks in her own doubt.
That is why women depend on each other for emotional validation and support. They are stabilizing each other's realities. And that is why social alienation is one of a woman's worst fears. To be outside the group is to be unanchored to her support network for her sanity.
Shame is a tactic that is used to alienate an individual's behavior in a group. It is emotional separation from the group to reprimand. That is why a woman will avoid shame by blaming others. She must escape the emotional noose shame.
Where does that leave a man? Women know that men are more emotionally stable in their perception of reality. That they can deflect shame and guilt tactics. That they can survive group shame better than a woman. And women are correct in this view (As long as a man is framed)
A woman's biological makes her uncertain of self which informs her psychology. A man only has uncertainty of self from psychological conditioning. Women are designed not just with monthly vulnerability but also mass vulnerability from childbearing. Pregnancy incapacitates women
That is why a woman will default to male blaming. She is designed for it. She knows a man is built biological for more certainty of self. The certainty-of-self needed for rational leadership. That is why men lead women and why women blame men.
Masculine frame helps a man to handle the emotioal stress of bearing responsibility his woman. It helps him to numb himself for stress and to lower his emotion for rational thought. Women need strong framed men to blame all their problems on. They are designed for it. Nature
Before we go into discussion on male confession to a woman, we must discuss what guilt means. A man with a guilty conscience is a man in doubt of how his behavior is aligning with his identity. And now just how he perceives himself but how those in authority perceive him.
Guilt under authority makes a person doubt themself. And what is the authority? It is whatever a man deems as moral authority above. It can be nation, tribe, church or any group where shame would make an individual doubt himself.
A woman does not want to listen to a man, she wants to talk.
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Unframed men believe in the lie of equality in romance and view their women as friends. They laugh, cry and share their every thought with their women. In their minds they view this as a connection that enhances the relationship. Is this correct?
Does sharing thoughts strengthen the relationship? No. When a man is talking to his woman, she will be losing respect for him the more he speaks. Why? Because speech is validation seeking behavior.
Before we go into how to lower emotion. Let us discuss why we would want to lower emotion in the body. Many women and feminized men think emotions are positive and that "Getting in touch" with emotion is healthy. Is that true? Let us discuss.
What is the positive that can be had by becoming emotional about something? The Wall Speaks was written from an emotional place because the empathy for suffering of fatherless men inspired me. When emotion moves us to act is a positive.
A man's emotional distance is the fragrant scent at the banquet table of love.
Distance pulls a woman towards a man and keeps her interested in her innate craving.
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What do women encourage in men?
Closeness and openness.
They encourage what they thirst for in their spirit. They want to be close and to be open with themselves and they want that with a man.
Closeness and openness are both like foods to the feminine spirit. Think about it like this. A woman who is given these foods is like a man who just satisfied himself at a banquet. How does a man feel about food after he satisfied himself in full?