Standards
1./The young man who tends my garden said he needed extra money for something and would like to do some additional work for me in order to earn the money.
I asked what additional work he wanted to do.
He said he would wash the paving stones in the compound.
1./The young man who tends my garden said he needed extra money for something and would like to do some additional work for me in order to earn the money.
I asked what additional work he wanted to do.
He said he would wash the paving stones in the compound.
2./ Washing the paving stones is tasking and requires extra effort so its billed separately from his regular pay.
I wondered why he didn’t just ask me for extra money. He’s a diligent worker and I always come through for him when he has additional needs.
I wondered why he didn’t just ask me for extra money. He’s a diligent worker and I always come through for him when he has additional needs.
3./ There was no doubt that I would support if necessary. But I didn’t question why he didn’t ask for support. I only asked what he wanted the money for.
He explained that he wanted to start some small trade for his wife because when he’s away, if she runs out of money,
He explained that he wanted to start some small trade for his wife because when he’s away, if she runs out of money,
4./ she has to wait until he comes back because she has none of her own.
I asked how much he wants to earn. He told me.
It wasn’t a lot of money.
I said, “Ok. Let me know what you need for the work and how much it will cost including the amount you will earn.”
I asked how much he wants to earn. He told me.
It wasn’t a lot of money.
I said, “Ok. Let me know what you need for the work and how much it will cost including the amount you will earn.”
5./ We sorted it, he did the work and went away with his money. His wife called me excitedly later on. She wanted to thank me for supporting her business.
Many myths abound about couple finances and power play in relationships.
Many myths abound about couple finances and power play in relationships.
6./SM tells us that people who earn 50k or less shouldn’t marry. May be, may be not. 🤷♀️
My garden guy has a wife& a kid. They recently celebrated her 1st birthday. It was a simple affair, but they did it. I don’t know his total earnings since I’m not his sole source of income.
My garden guy has a wife& a kid. They recently celebrated her 1st birthday. It was a simple affair, but they did it. I don’t know his total earnings since I’m not his sole source of income.
7./ They aren’t living in the lap of luxury and indeed they need support now and again, but their lives are going on. It’s not perfect, but is any life perfect?
Many urban myths about life are perpetuated on SM. They are false standards. Life on the outside is different.
Many urban myths about life are perpetuated on SM. They are false standards. Life on the outside is different.
8./ Many people pushing standards haven’t tried to apply them in real life. The knowledge they share is theoretical and won’t withstand the rigours of practical application.
Many others are acting out after life may have dealt them a bad hand.
Many others are acting out after life may have dealt them a bad hand.
9./ Some others may simply be “Oh yes members.”
Real life interactions are probably a better guide to finding balance.
Primarily it’s important to be with someone you like and respect who likes and respects you.
Most other issues will fall into place.
The end.😊
Real life interactions are probably a better guide to finding balance.
Primarily it’s important to be with someone you like and respect who likes and respects you.
Most other issues will fall into place.
The end.😊
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