Why PORN is bad for men and what men can do to harden their cocks.
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Before we go into discussion on why a man should stop watching porn, let us discuss the morality of porn viewing. I don't care if a man likes looking at pictures of naked women. That is healthy to be attracted to the beauty of women and to be aroused by women getting fucked.
But porn is unhealthy for men. Why? Think about how the cock rises. What makes a cock hard and what makes a cock rise? There are biological reasons but let us focus on the psychological reasons. A cock rises from certainty of arousal and imagination.
Will and imagination. This increases the blood flow into the cock and creates the tower of our erotic dreams. We imagine our fantasy and we become flushed in spirit. This creates arousal and hardens our cock. The stronger our imagination for sex, the greater the power of our cock
What is porn? It is fantasy revealed and exposed. An outpouring from exposed vulgarity into our eye. And what is the greatest trigger for arousal in a man? The eye. Porn floods the eye with sex and atrophies our erotic imagination.
When a man is obsessively watching porn is like a man who obsessively uses crutches. After long, he will become dependent on the crutches as his muscles begin to wither from disuse. Same for porn. It weakens a man's erotic imaginative abilities and makes him wither in decay.
This desensitization to arousal will soften a man's cock and lead to erectile dysfunction. This is when porn becomes self-harming to a man's sexual health. It is doubt in sexual power. To make the cock hard and to rise take BELIEF. Belief in our imagination.
What can a man do if his cock is softening from obsessive porn viewing? He must protect his eye. He must avoid sexual media to re-sensitize his eye to erotic feeling. This will cause him to increase his arousal by denying himself the crutch. Muscle training.
After a time of protecting his eye, he can test his cock health by getting hard from only imagination and his own touch. This will cause him to practice his erotic imagination by summoning the will to rise and harden. And he can keep his aroused stay going by inner fantasy alone
I am not encouraging a man to climax. Men who climax sexually in masturbation waste their energy. This energy is best spent in sex with a woman. I am suggesting that a man strengthen his erotic imagination without climax. This will help him overcome ED.
Avoid porn. Strengthen the imagination. The cock is dependent on erotic imagination and confidence in will. Another reason men have ED is that they have performance anxiety. Be confident in what sexually pleases you and act upon it without anxiety. Women share a man's confidence.
Before we begin our discussion let us define what guilt means. It means a heavy internal burden over a disconnect between action and identity. An uneasy emotion that gnaws away at us because we feel bad over our behavior.
Guilt is not a bad thing by in large but only becomes a problem when a man does not use the anxiety for his best interests. If a man feels guilt, he must ask himself why and he must make sense of the feeling. After he makes sense, he should move himself to positive action.
Before we go into discussion on this topic, let us define what "fucking a woman good" means. This means to bring a woman to orgasm. This is different based on the woman. Some women can orgasm quickly while others take a while to orgasm.
Does a man need to worry about bringing a woman to orgasm? First. Why would a man care about bringing a woman to orgasm? Most guys on Twitter will talk about "Fucking a woman good" in order to secure her loyalty. This thinking comes from a place of fear of loss.
I grew up in a violent atmosphere which created various nervous disorders. One disorder was how my speech was affected. My speech was fast, my thoughts would trail off and my voice was higher pitch.
The reason a man's speech is fast is the same reason a dog eats his food fast. It comes from fear. The fear of not being heard or listened to. The fear of being cut off by other dominant voices. And so, a man will spill himself out quickly from that anxiety.
When I was unframed growing up. I would listen to sensitive music and would moralize the experience. And I believed that women would like my sensitive side and would appreciate my sensitive tastes. Brutal sounding music offended me lyrically and musically.
Music has a big impact on our emotions. For example, as a teen I would listen to grunge which has nihilistic lyrics with sad melodies. And this fueled my own boyhood angst and fueled my depression state of mind. Sad music encourages sadness.
What does it mean to break a heart? It means to trample on what has been given in vulnerability and to betray a sacred trust. A heart breaks from multiple reasons but the main causes are emotional sensitivity and emotional dependency.
A little about me. I married my first kiss. My naivety was guarded by her shared naivety. It was a protection against any ache for experience in my spirit. We were both inexperienced and loyal. In a way this was God's protection.