Thread by @sapphixy

your original tweet was awful, but your assertions about the neurochemistry of emotion are overripe with misogyny and toxic masculinity

estrogen doesn't make you emotional any more than testosterone makes you stoic save for anger

everything you cite is cultural, not biological

https://twitter.com/evelynharlow_/status/1480569803593109505

look, @evelynharlow_, I don't give a fuck what you find attractive; the only people whose attractions I care about are those who are available, attainable, and what I like; you're the correct gender and good-looking but you're terminally straight and geographically inconvenient

and frankly I find your opinions breathtakingly immature even under the assumption that you're as young as your filtered avi suggests

even your desire for a romantic partner who will be your anchor in a crisis is motivated by your acculturation

as an unqueer woman, you're taught to be the emotional and physical caretaker of your partners, while they're supposed to be stoic and strong

but true strength isn't in being stoic and unemotional, it's in always learning who you are and what you can do and when to ask for help

I'm often the person my friends and family turn to for emotional support, and I, in turn, have people I turn to when I need it (which, sometimes, means all six thousand plus of you who hit that follow button for some reason)

that's just part of being healthy and human

lastly, and I say this as someone probably twice your age, @evelynharlow_, but put down all the lists of qualities you want in a partner and just meet people

pay attention to red flags and don't put up with bullshit, and don't be afraid to leave to protect yourself

and remember that you are not a supporting character in your own life story

you may be willing to give everything to someone you love, but anyone who would *take* everything deserves nothing