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Jan 18 12 tweets 3 min read
How a Make-believe lifestyle thwarts many of us

Many people today have their goals blocked or frustrated by their own selves. You adopt a lifestyle that you are very sure is fake, yet you dream of achieving something genuine out of it. How is that possible?
It is a common thing today to see people that cannot live genuine lives even though they don't find the fake life funny. We all want to do what others do, even though we are not the same; we do not earn the same, not are we of the same background. At the end, truth takes over.
I remember after our graduation from university, I had a cousin in Zaria who also graduated from ABU Zaria & was not ready to do any "menial job" at that time. Since he read accounting, he felt that he must be gainfully employed. In fact, he'd mention the places he must work.
Meanwhile, he didn't earn a good degree, neither was his father rich nor 'highly' placed in govt, high enough to pick him & drop in a lucrative office. All things are at odd for him really, not agreeing with reality, yet he fails to understand. He'd bath in the evening, go out
to meet his rich friends, gist & drive around town, come home with high hopes. At the same time, he had a friend that read same course & live very close to our family house in Kusfa Zaria. This guy almost made a first class, although he lost his father when he was just 8, & was
trained by a struggling mother. My cousin's friend who later became my very good friend understands the reality of life, & therefore immediately after NYSC, he'd go into menial jobs to earn a living while hoping for something better to come. He'd go for painting, interlocking,
buying & selling and so on, just to make ends meet. My cousin once mocked him softly, and before he even responded, I was the one that did my cousin, hardly. I told him why his friend won't wait for someone to give him N500 to buy recharge card, something my cousin always do.
May be for those of you born with silver spoons, doing some jobs is low. But for us from humble backgrounds, some of us born with copper spoons while some without even spoons at all, as long as the work is legitimate, we don't see it as low. Also, the degrees we hold won't make
us feel too big to do those jobs. Alhamdulillah, it has saved us a lot of our honor. It has saved us from the humiliation of having to beg people when we actually can do little to manage our situations. Let us learn to appreciate who we are. Let us make good use of our selves.
You'd be saving to buy a phone of N500K just so you impress the society, when in reality you can't afford a phone of N50K, if you'd live reality. Some of us today can't do this POS business even though we are jobless. Some of us can't be Uber drivers, even though we are jobless.
Some of us can't be delivery men, even though we are jobless. We want to live the kind of life lived by people who earn N1M monthly and above when we don't have any source of income. Common brothers! Let us see our realities & work with it. This life is easy, live is easily.
Today, that my cousin's friend has a PhD & is working with a big ministry, earning big. My cousin isn't doing bad too, but he has not gotten quarter of what his friend has. What is meant to be ours will be. Let us not fake what may come to be real, or may never.

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