1. Start your messages/emails by addressing them by their name
Don't just stop at hey or hi.
Go beyond.
Acknowledge the one thing that truly belongs to them.
Their name.
Even more so when you are replying.
Through this, they are likelier to remember you than others.
2. Send emails to yourself, in the future
Whatever is it that you are feeling right now, will disappear.
Document this feeling.
And share it with your future self, when you think you will be ready to process it again.
Do not rely on memory.
3. Do not try to remember anything
Write down stuff.
Put it on your calendar.
Stick notes.
Drop hints.
Your brain is to be used to comprehend and process.
Don't waste it on trying to remember to-do lists.
4. Smile at the mirror
Love yourself.
Wish yourself good morning.
Look into your eye and be grateful for the day.
Tell yourself, you are enough.
Everything is going to be ok.
If you do not acknowledge yourself, no one else will.
5. Meet someone new every week
Someone you have never spoken to.
Never met.
Never interacted with.
Ideally someone who is very different from you.
They will help you see the world differently from how you know it.
6. Brush twice
Our teeth are one of the most ignored parts of our body, until they make us realize they exist!
Plan for that to not happen.
Brush before you go to bed.
7. Read for 30 mins daily
Do not set targets for how many books to finish.
Do not feel the urge to show off the book you have just finished.
Read, for the joy of reading.
If you do not like the book, drop it and read another.
But read.
Everyday.
8. Say thank you. Even when someone can't hear you.
Saying thank you is to have good manners.
Being thankful is to have a good life.
Pause a second to close your eyes and be thankful towards someone who did something for you.
Or thankful for what you have in life.
9. Make inspiration a choice
Don't leave inspiration to chance.
Do something everyday that leaves you inspired.
That video, that song, that quote, that podcast, that book, that person.
Actively choose inspiration.
The algorithms may never chose it for you!
10. Invest every month
The amount doesn't matter.
The market conditions doesn't matter.
How long you invest matters.
How regularly you invest matters.
No more excuses.
11. Before emotions, bring numbers in
Emotions will eventually play a key role in every decision.
Before you let them take over, do the math.
Should you buy the house or rent, buy the car or rent, take up that job or this, move abroad or stay here - start with the numbers.
12. Do one thing every week where you are likely to fail
We all fear failing.
Practice failing and we won't fear it anymore.
Ask for a favor from a stranger, send a cold email, sing in public, give a mock interview.
Practice failing. So that failing doesn't hurt.
13. Act on the thoughts that keep you up at night
We all have ideas. Only a few of us have something to show.
Do not let your best ideas die within.
Take the smallest possible step that you can.
DO is the start of DO EPIC SHIT.
14. Breathe deeply through your nose, let go through your mouth. 2 mins everyday.
Our breath is EVERYTHING!
Paying attention to it, is the first step to realizing this.
15. Dress well; wear a perfume
Just because you live by yourself, or are WFH, don't act as if no one sees you.
You see you.
Feel nice, smell nice, for your own self.
16. Compliment people
It will feel awkward, but only to you.
For the one receiving it, it might be the best thing they have heard in a while.
Do not hesitate.
17. Work out everyday
Doesn't need to be the gym.
Do something that you can commit to everyday.
Run, swim, walk, dance, jump, play - anything that gets your heart beat racing and you sweating.
Feel alive!
18. Follow the POMODORO technique for work
25 mins of work
5 mins break
Repeat
After 5 such cycles, take a long 15 min break
Helps you focus.
Your focus is everything.
Focus in the new IQ!
19. Follow positive people
Unfollow those who make you laugh at the expense of others.
Unfollow those who make you hate the world.
Unfollow those who make you feel ugly/unworthy.
Unfollow those who make you lose hope.
You're the average of the 5 ideas you spend most time with.
20. Schedule your day.
Including your "I will waste time" slots
Set time aside for work.
Also set time aside for no-work, for mindless scrolling, for random banter, for just chilling.
You will anticipate that time. And will become disciplined about it eventually.
21. Call your parents
You have much lesser time left with them than you imagine.
And once they are gone, you do not want to live with regret.
22. Ask yourself everyday, "what am I doing wrong, that I know I am doing wrong?"
If you ask this question everyday, you will find the answer to your wrong.
You will know what you have to fix.
The answer will not be the one you want.
But it will be the one you need.
When we pick something up for the first time, it is always hard.
Our brain is active and it vividly consumes energy to navigate that path.
Once it becomes a habit, our brain dispenses the least energy to accomplish it.
Habits are nature's way to conserve energy!
I've been a student of habits for as long as I have known myself.
Whether it was recording every waking hour of the day, since school, or reading (the same books over and over again, since that's all I could afford), or thinking in numbers for everything.
I am my habits.
You too can become your habits.
Start today! :)
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I didn't make it to IIT after my Class 12th.
Because of which I went to Delhi University.
Which is where I met my future wife.
If I made it to IIT, I may have never met her!
I didn't make it to IIT for an MS.
Because of which I did just 1 more year of MS from Delhi Uni and left for the US for a PhD.
Which is where I realized, this wasn't my calling.
If I made it to IIT, I may have taken longer to realize what I didn't want to do.
Overthinking is a thing!
We all tend to overthink.
And strangely, it is almost always about the thing that will go bad.
No one in history was overthinking about the good things.
Imagine, your friend calls before an interview, "OMG dude, they are going to love me, fall for my credentials, my experience, my pedigree and I am going to get this job. Money + this brand on my resume. SOMEBODY STOP THIS OVERTHINKING!"
Dad joined a company and in a year got an offer for double the salary and a car.
This was 1990! And a big deal!
He quit his job, joined the new company, which shut down in a year.
He was without a job for 2 years.
Mom and dad did odd jobs to keep the home running.
Every smart person continued to ridicule dad for taking that call.
But my dad insisted that he would have still taken the call. There was no way to know!
He could have very well succeeded and heralded a hero.
Lesson 1:
Risk and failure is not absolute.
It is a state of mind.