1./When Nigerians emigrate, they often leave in search of greener pastures. It isn’t our intention to commit crimes. Despite this, lately I’ve read several online accounts of problems Nigerian emigrants run into. The problems aren’t often big crimes.
2./ Mostly they are missteps which perhaps if they happened in Nigeria would be shrugged off with a warning. But rarely big crimes. Yet, las las, small shit dey spoil yansh.
It occurred to me that as emigration by Nigerians continues to grow,
3./ everyone who’s leaving should invest in either a really good book that teaches the norms and cultures of the country of emigration, or an etiquette course.
We have many ways as Nigerians which we accept as normal but which can irreparably damage us abroad.
4./ When a person makes a mistake of the kind that is abhorrent in their adopted country, it is immaterial that they did not realise it was unacceptable. The effects can be far reaching and a dream can turn into a nightmare.
5./ Tiresome as it may be, investing in learning the appropriate etiquette will probably save many people.
On this occasion, I shall borrow from Twitter ITK’s please read a book on etiquette. Have it as a Bible and observe closely what is acceptable and what isn’t.
1./ Ugonma stopped scrolling. Her attention was riveted to the Instablog post. “Member Protests Against Pastor Kumuyi Over The Introduction Of Unconventional Music Into Deeper Life Church!
Her lips curled downwards in a sneer.
2./ She shook her head derisively at the twists and turns of life.
What her siblings and her had gone through attending a similar fundamentalist Pentecostal church while growing up wasn’t a memory she wanted to revisit. God dey sha.
3./ Later that evening, whilst visiting her Mum, she couldn’t help crowing triumphantly as she flashed her phone with the headlines before her Mum’s face.
“Look at it Mum! Ngwanu! Look at it! Do you remember all those days when you forced us to attend that church with you?
1./ Nigeria is at a dangerous and vulnerable place. Political leaders have failed the people. The jury is out on the quality of our spiritual leaders across the board, and it’s not looking good except for a few. The family unit is buffeted from all sides.
2./ Parents are under pressure to earn a living to sustain their families. The business of earning a living translates to long days for many parents often leaving them too exhausted at the end of the day to have proper oversight of their young wards.
3./ These young people are often guided more by the standards of pop culture than any values which parents may pass down (assuming the parents have a solid moral compass).
In other cases, despite working long and hard, people see little or no returns,
1./“The nature of a secret is that it is hidden, confidential, known only to a few. This is often with good reason. When people have a secret, it’s probably best to leave it between them. Knowledge isn’t always power and ignorance can be bliss. . .
2./ That is until the effect of ignorance bites you in the ass.
In my experience, silence isn’t always golden and may in fact be harmful to the one who’s not in the know. So while the ability to keep secrets may be a good trait,
3./ it is vital that we are able to differentiate between that which ought to be kept secret, and that which must be told.
My name is Kike Akinnibosun and it’s my pleasure to welcome you to today’s edition of the Live Drive. We want to talk about secrets. Do you know a secret?
1./Sometimes, in order to support a position, studies conducted to investigate a situation will be skewed. The results presented at the conclusion will support the desired premise of the researcher because results will be dependent on the sample group.
2./ Without going into instances when I’ve seen that happen, I believe that the proliferation of the use of SM has increased this problem. But perhaps we ought to interrogate the narrative presented before us.
Is it really true?
If not what is the purpose?
3./ Is it all building towards something?
Think of a movie. The audience in a movie doesn’t know where the story is going but the director knows. It’s the same with pushing a narrative using multiple seemingly innocuous nudges. What is the real reason? Where is it all going?
1./The young man who tends my garden said he needed extra money for something and would like to do some additional work for me in order to earn the money.
I asked what additional work he wanted to do.
He said he would wash the paving stones in the compound.
2./ Washing the paving stones is tasking and requires extra effort so its billed separately from his regular pay.
I wondered why he didn’t just ask me for extra money. He’s a diligent worker and I always come through for him when he has additional needs.
3./ There was no doubt that I would support if necessary. But I didn’t question why he didn’t ask for support. I only asked what he wanted the money for.
He explained that he wanted to start some small trade for his wife because when he’s away, if she runs out of money,