Thread by @GbengaWemimo

2008, i met a lady in the youth fellowship of the church I was was attending
A few months after cI joined the church, I became the youth president of the church
I became friends with this lady, with the intention of marrying her
When asked her to marry me, she told me to speak to

her mother of my intentions
She said this will convince her to take me serious
I did
After my seriousness had been established, she began to come over to my house once in a while with her younger sister
We were serious believers and we did everything properly (As it should be)

Whenever she calls me to say she would be coming to say hello, I would frantically do everything to keep my flat in order
I am not the finicky type but I still didn't want her to have the impression that she was walking into a pigsty or that I expected her to be performing "wifey

duties in the name of a relationship
An unkempt house can be interpreted to mean many things between courting couples
She could interpret it as "dirty" guy and as a result pull out of the relationship
I really wanted to marry this lady, so I would make sure there was cooked food

(Often bought at a nearby eatery and fruits) in my fridge
Whenever she comes around, we would watch movies on my laptop, talk and pray together
One day my mother came around to visit me
She arrived in the evening because she has to take a flight out of the country the following

morning
As early as 8am, my mother was set
I and my younger brother left the house together so that we can drop her off at the airport and spend some time with her before she boarded
This lady calls me and asked where i was
I said I was driving towards Ikorodu road
She said "Turn

back, I want to have a word with you"
I told my brother to turn the car around
When we got to my flat, she was standing outside
I alighted from the car and introduced my mother to her
She goes all red in the face
"Why didn't you tell me your mummy is in the car?"
I said it would

have landed me in a pickle
My mummy doesn't like being used as cannon fodder and I didn't want to land in trouble because she came all the way to my house and I didn't turn the car around
She greeted my mummy and apologized for making me bring her all the way back to the house

So why did you ask me to come?
I asked
She said we will talk later and left
Later that evening, she came around and accused me of being insensitive
She insisted I should have ignored her call or told her my mother was in the car because that was not the first impression she wante

to make
The talk was long and she even cried
I made a mistake however, I said "I was on my way to the airport, I told you how far I had gone and you ordered me to turn back. This is not the first time you have done that and you have never felt bad doing that, so you're not really

feeling bad about it now
The reason you're feeling bad about it was because my mother was in the car and she might have interpreted your action as entitled, domineering and selfish
You're willing to be all that to me but you just don't want my mother to see it"
She said she was

done with the relationship after my long speech
I didn't know why I said what I said but saying the truth does not always bring the desired result- I have learned that in a hard way
She left in a hoof and I resolved to let her cool off so that I can apologize
The next day, I went

to see a friend at his father's printing press
We got talking and another friend of his (a female) came to visit him
We all served in Yobe state but I never met the lady before that day
We spent about four hours together, when it was time for me to leave, it turned out that the

lady was going my way
So i gave her a ride and we got talking
She had been working with a bank since she graduated, she was a student of a topnotch business school, her parents were quite wealthy and connected
I felt it was a privilege to know her and I admired how easily she

related with me without any air of superiority or attitude
I had planned to drop her along the way but I offered to take her home just to be sure she is who she claimed she was
When I got home, she called to say thank you and even sent me messages on blackberry later that night

I replied her message and we got chatting
We chatted all night and the chatting continued all day while I was in the office
She was different
It was easier to be with her, more relaxing and there was no pressure whatsoever
Although I had planned to call my babe to apologize after

the argument, this new friend of mine basically made me forget everything
I mean, once I get on the phone with her we will both run the battery down and then continue whatever we were doing even while the phone was charging
We both didn't sleep for almost a week
I didn't know

talking with a babe could be so unofficial, free and liberating
We were like buddies but with crazy chemistry and a longing for each other that cannot be described
She asked for my address the following friday
First thing on Saturday morning, I mean around 7:30AM, she showed up

She called me and told me to look outside the window
I did and there she was
Oh my God!
I told her my house was upside down, that id dress up and we can take a drive to an eatery
She laughed and asked me to open the door
I did
She said "I wanted to catch you like this, I wanted

see you in your natural habitat without the padding and the makeup"
I kept apologizing
She kept laughing and teasing me
We played scrabble and drank some tapioca my mummy made before she traveled
By ten AM, she gave me a list of things that she wanted me to buy for my flat

air freshener, covered dustbins, mop, pegs, two extra buckets and so on
I changed and rushed off to the supermarket
She was the kind of girl that you want to be pleased with you but not in a scary way
The kind of girl you really want to impress
I spent an hour in the supermarket

When I got back home, i almost fainted
She had swept the entire house, threw old a lot of stuff, and was arranging the sitting room
It was that moment that changed everything for me, I promised myself that if she would have me, I would marry her
I thanked her for doing what she

did
She said "I knew you won't let me do it that was why I sent you to the supermarket with that long list. I grew up among four boys, I know the difference a lady can make in a man's life"
I kept her company while she cooked, she said "Dont thank me with words when you eat this

meal"
I laughed and laughed
When we finished eating, I cleared both our plates and did the dishes
She watched me while I did
We were just chit-chatting
When wIas done, I walked straight to her and kissed her right on the lips
She kissed me back
Then I said "Thank you"
She hugged

me and i held her tight
I got married to her on the 26th of June 2010
I didn't marry her as a reward or as a compensation
She didn't earn anything
I married her because I love her humility, loyalty, down to earth nature, and sincerity
She made all the difference in my life!

PS: I read this letter earlier this morning and I felt tears roll down my eyes
Love is real and I hope some people in this Twitter generation will find it
There is nothing worth arguing about when you find your mate
All the debates are symptoms of a generation missing out on love

NB: This story was sent in Mr Reuben A Daniel, he and his wife lives in Lagos Nigeria