Telling someone you have been in love with that the relationship is over is a big deal
It sometimes eats you up from the inside, especially if the person is a good person who loves you with all of his or her heart
How do you even say it?
What words do you use?
What excuse?
It is
It sometimes eats you up from the inside, especially if the person is a good person who loves you with all of his or her heart
How do you even say it?
What words do you use?
What excuse?
It is
easier to wish it away
To hope that the person will find love with someone else and be the one to break up with you or perhaps to relocate for studies, work, or whatever
It is even worse if you have met somebody else and you find yourself "double-dating" unintentionally because
To hope that the person will find love with someone else and be the one to break up with you or perhaps to relocate for studies, work, or whatever
It is even worse if you have met somebody else and you find yourself "double-dating" unintentionally because
while you have moved on, he or she still sees you as the center of their world
You look for mistakes, you get angry with such easily, ignore their phone calls, deliberately refuse to reply their messages, become curt, impolite, and sometimes rude
You hurt while you're doing this
You look for mistakes, you get angry with such easily, ignore their phone calls, deliberately refuse to reply their messages, become curt, impolite, and sometimes rude
You hurt while you're doing this
but you know such a person deserves better
Sometimes you tell a mutual friend to help you break the news and you hope your partner will take it well and not see you as the devil
You mount your defenses
You cry & wish you could disappear
Why is it so hard to be happy in this world
Sometimes you tell a mutual friend to help you break the news and you hope your partner will take it well and not see you as the devil
You mount your defenses
You cry & wish you could disappear
Why is it so hard to be happy in this world
Walking out of emotionally intense relationships is such a gut-wrenching deal
It is easier if it was just a casual, physical fling
It is easier if it was just sex
Emotions are tricky things, you never know how far you're gone until you find your legs shaking and your eyes teary
It is easier if it was just a casual, physical fling
It is easier if it was just sex
Emotions are tricky things, you never know how far you're gone until you find your legs shaking and your eyes teary
all because your relationship with someone is facing a sudden death
When it comes to a marriage, the energy is different
You're committed and you even took a vow to that effect but if the man turns out to be a burden or the woman turns out to be a disaster
You begin to consider
When it comes to a marriage, the energy is different
You're committed and you even took a vow to that effect but if the man turns out to be a burden or the woman turns out to be a disaster
You begin to consider
walking away carefully
If children were involved, if the church was involved and so many other factors
She wished she had walked away from the relationship before they got married
She wanted to on many occasions but she developed cold feet for many reasons
She met him while she
If children were involved, if the church was involved and so many other factors
She wished she had walked away from the relationship before they got married
She wanted to on many occasions but she developed cold feet for many reasons
She met him while she
was on Industrial training
He was already working with the organization and she felt he was the right age for her to move on to the next phase of her with
She had never really been in any serious relationship before then
He was kind, attentive and generous
She really felt he was
He was already working with the organization and she felt he was the right age for her to move on to the next phase of her with
She had never really been in any serious relationship before then
He was kind, attentive and generous
She really felt he was
the one when he asked her out but then...
Other guys came along after her IT
They were richer and they offered far juicier prospects
She wanted to walk away at that time but what if...
What if these new guys just wanted to take advantage of her?
What if she was just being selfish
Other guys came along after her IT
They were richer and they offered far juicier prospects
She wanted to walk away at that time but what if...
What if these new guys just wanted to take advantage of her?
What if she was just being selfish
and reckless?
She went out with some of the prospects secretly and discovered that for all their sweet tongues and sudden attention, all they wanted was the honey
After three of such misadventures, she told herself it was best to stay with him
He was constant, consistent and his
She went out with some of the prospects secretly and discovered that for all their sweet tongues and sudden attention, all they wanted was the honey
After three of such misadventures, she told herself it was best to stay with him
He was constant, consistent and his
love was genuine
She wanted more out of life
It seems to her as if he was okay with salary and living in a flat somewhere
Perhaps she was just being childish and adventurous
He was offering what every girl desires but she didn't want her life to peter out after getting married
She wanted more out of life
It seems to her as if he was okay with salary and living in a flat somewhere
Perhaps she was just being childish and adventurous
He was offering what every girl desires but she didn't want her life to peter out after getting married
Even though he was working at the time and she was studying, she still felt he was too limited in his understanding of life to cope with her
Yet she didn't want to get to her planned destination alone
She wanted the security of a relationship, she wanted a home
She graduated and
Yet she didn't want to get to her planned destination alone
She wanted the security of a relationship, she wanted a home
She graduated and
got a job
She did her masters and even traveled abroad for her MBA
She would have walked away if she met another person, anybody who matched her energy but sadly, there was none
Like a faithful dog, he waited
She returned home and married him after nine years of relationship
She did her masters and even traveled abroad for her MBA
She would have walked away if she met another person, anybody who matched her energy but sadly, there was none
Like a faithful dog, he waited
She returned home and married him after nine years of relationship
She started earning way more than him
Even when she was pregnant with their children, she often wondered if he was aware that she was not really settled in her spirit as his wife
She wanted him to run, to grab opportunities, to aspire to become more than a grade by grade civil
Even when she was pregnant with their children, she often wondered if he was aware that she was not really settled in her spirit as his wife
She wanted him to run, to grab opportunities, to aspire to become more than a grade by grade civil
servant
No matter how she said it directly or indirectly, he wasn't moved
Like a snail or a tortoise, his pace in life was far from what her Ferrari could embrace
She had her children in the USA
(She sponsored the trips)
He loves her and would say yes to whatever she demanded
She
No matter how she said it directly or indirectly, he wasn't moved
Like a snail or a tortoise, his pace in life was far from what her Ferrari could embrace
She had her children in the USA
(She sponsored the trips)
He loves her and would say yes to whatever she demanded
She
hated that too
He was too much of a yes man
She cheated on him a few times, he didn't even notice or perhaps he deliberately ignored the signs
Even when she left clues here and there to provoke him, hoping he would divorce her or do something
He kept mum
Eventually, she made up
He was too much of a yes man
She cheated on him a few times, he didn't even notice or perhaps he deliberately ignored the signs
Even when she left clues here and there to provoke him, hoping he would divorce her or do something
He kept mum
Eventually, she made up
her mind and relocated abroad with the children
She told him her plans after it had been concluded
She didn't think it mattered to him that much
He agreed and they made plans to work on his papers and get him to join them as soon as possible
She knew the marriage was over
She was
She told him her plans after it had been concluded
She didn't think it mattered to him that much
He agreed and they made plans to work on his papers and get him to join them as soon as possible
She knew the marriage was over
She was
done
She expected time and distance to take care of the rest
It was better than telling him it was over and having to fight over custody and other things
It had always been difficult for her to close out relationships with words
One year after she and her children arrived in
She expected time and distance to take care of the rest
It was better than telling him it was over and having to fight over custody and other things
It had always been difficult for her to close out relationships with words
One year after she and her children arrived in
the USA
She heard that his uncle was made an ambassador
A few weeks later, he sent her a message that he would be coming over as part of his uncle's diplomatic entourage
They had been communicating and things were going according to plan
The calls were becoming less frequent and
She heard that his uncle was made an ambassador
A few weeks later, he sent her a message that he would be coming over as part of his uncle's diplomatic entourage
They had been communicating and things were going according to plan
The calls were becoming less frequent and
the marriage dying a natural death
She replied him saying "I think we both know this marriage is over. You have access to your children anytime you want but I want more out of life than this"
He didn't reply
He also didn't bother visiting as he earlier intended
He called her once
She replied him saying "I think we both know this marriage is over. You have access to your children anytime you want but I want more out of life than this"
He didn't reply
He also didn't bother visiting as he earlier intended
He called her once
in a while but kept in touch with the children
She was in New York
He was in Washington
She was living in a basement apartment, doing three jobs a day to cope with bills and all
She didn't bother asking him for anything, she just needed to brush up her CV and do some courses that
She was in New York
He was in Washington
She was living in a basement apartment, doing three jobs a day to cope with bills and all
She didn't bother asking him for anything, she just needed to brush up her CV and do some courses that
will enable her use her certificate to get a better job
He invited the children over to his house for Christmas in 2021
She decided to take them
She got to his mansion and discovered that he was more than comfortable
He was working with a tech firm, earning so much and living
He invited the children over to his house for Christmas in 2021
She decided to take them
She got to his mansion and discovered that he was more than comfortable
He was working with a tech firm, earning so much and living
well
It was as if she walked into her dream life in real life
He was still his modest self
Easy talking, not taking anything as important as he should
Not once did he tell her how rich he was or even use his means to try and take the children or contest her decision to dump him
It was as if she walked into her dream life in real life
He was still his modest self
Easy talking, not taking anything as important as he should
Not once did he tell her how rich he was or even use his means to try and take the children or contest her decision to dump him
She spent a week in his house
She stayed in a room
The children had their own rooms, they had a butler and a housekeeper
After the third day, she summoned the courage to have a chat with him
He was friendly, respectful but distant
It was understandable, given the circumstances
She stayed in a room
The children had their own rooms, they had a butler and a housekeeper
After the third day, she summoned the courage to have a chat with him
He was friendly, respectful but distant
It was understandable, given the circumstances
After the week, she asked if he would rather have the children since he has the means to take care of them
He said okay
She returned to New York and started praying
She wanted her husband back but she does not know how to reach him anymore
To be continued...
He said okay
She returned to New York and started praying
She wanted her husband back but she does not know how to reach him anymore
To be continued...
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