I shared a thread on the war I thought was unbiased—after spending 10+ hours absorbing material from all sides (literally The American Conservative to Jacobin)—from an independent academic and was accused of sharing Russian propaganda. I think this should give some folks pause.
I deleted my quote tweet of the thread because there were inaccuracies in it I was unaware of. I no longer believe it to be unbiased. I also don’t appreciate people talking down to me as if I haven’t done my own research on the topic or I’m a naive Russia sympathizer.
There wasn’t anything in the thread that was explicitly pro-Russian. Only claims that apparently contradict what some of you have read elsewhere. That doesn’t mean it’s propaganda. It means reality is complex. Especially the reality of countries we don’t really understand.
If your reaction to incongruous information is “that’s Russian disinfo!”, maybe you should think about why you’re having that reaction. Could it be there are people in power—yes, in the United States of America—who want you to have that reaction?
Could it be they don’t actually care about civilians—Ukrainian or Russian? Could it be there are other motives at play in a war in which two of the largest corporate interest groups in this country—oil and weapons—stand to gain or lose billions?
Could it be the mainstream media has strong connections to corporate power (I mean WaPo is owned by Bezos, for crying out loud) and thus can’t be relied upon for the absolute, unvarnished truth?
I urge you to ask yourself these questions. All the time, but especially now.
I don’t know where some of you are getting your information, but I will continue getting mine from reputable sources across the spectrum. I will not take the NYT, WaPo, and CNN at their word, just as I won’t take RT or Ukraine’s Twitter at their word. I expect more from myself.
And if you aren’t aware, Ukrainian mis/disinformation is rampant on here. The Ghost of Kyiv, the Snake Island martyrs, maybe even the sunflower seed woman. Even mainstream media like the BBC and Reuters are reporting on it. Be mindful of what you share.
Gut voch. Last week, I tweeted a thread about Aaron Teitelbaum, owner of a popular music production company in the NY area. I deleted the thread the next day. Why? Because one of his enablers tried to scare me.
I’m here to tell you I’m not scared anymore.
Why am I not scared? Because that recording is out there. Because people have known about his alleged abuse for more than 20 years. Because any threat he or his enablers make against me will bring everything he’s done into the light. And because I am not alone.
So I’m going to repost the thread, including the list of his enablers. All I ask is that you share this thread—even if you shared it last week—so we can reach as many potential victims as possible and bring Aaron Teitelbaum to justice. Retweet, screenshot and share everywhere.
I didn’t think it was possible for @YUNews to look worse in this story, but here we are. If you listen to this and still doubt whether a) an assault happened or b) whether YU handled this properly, I’m sorry but you’re in denial.
Some new details that the brave young woman shared:
-It was a 1st date
-She was adamant not to go up to her alleged abuser’s apartment and insisted on being near other people
-He duped her into going up under the pretense of helping him with something
-He held her down violently
-YU knew she had bruises on her neck and legs
-YU said they wouldn’t investigate until she signed an NDA
-YU claimed they didn’t have access to her rape kit when they very easily could’ve gotten access
-YU refused to offer her protection without consent of the alleged abuser (!!)
When you mock, deny the need for, and celebrate the “failure” of efforts to publicize the sexual abuse of children—in the name of your Orthodox way of life—you’re saying your way of life doesn’t hold children’s safety and well-being paramount. That’s not something to be proud of.
These guys know better. They know many, if not most, people in their communities don’t have social media. Some don’t even have smartphones, computers. How are they going to find out about Chaim Walder? How are they going to know how to protect their children from people like him?
When there are STILL big rabbis and rebbetzins saying that Loshon Hora killed Chaim Walder, that he simply “lost his balance,” that the lesson is for women to dress and act modestly, how will people learn the truth? How will victims not continue to be intimidated into silence?
Read this thread until the end.
The texts that must be grappled with are everywhere, even where you don’t think to look. Just in yesterday’s daf, the Talmud says we can’t rely on testimony of a person who experienced something as a child. Would the Sages believe Walder’s victims?
Or what about the opinion of the Amora Shmuel’s father, that every married woman who is raped by another man is forbidden to her husband because we must assume she ultimately acquiesced (תחלתה באונס וסופה ברצון)? Would he believe Walder’s victims?
To all my non-religious/non-Jewish followers confused/disturbed why I’m tweeting so much about sexual abuse:
Thank you for staying with me until now. My community is undergoing a major reckoning and it’s difficult to think, and certainly tweet, about other things right now. 1/3
I’m also in a PhD program, which limits the amount of time I can spend here. So for the next few weeks most, if not all of my tweets, will be about this issue. I promise you, I wish I didn’t have to tweet so much about this. But I cannot remain silent given the platform I have. 2
If it’s traumatizing or otherwise upsetting for you—which I COMPLETELY understand (I myself am learning my limits)—please mute me. I’ll send out a tweet when things are somewhat back to normal. Until then, take care of yourselves and can’t wait to talk lighter stuff with y’all!❤️🩹
Shavua tov. If your rabbi didn’t talk about believing and supporting victims of sexual abuse (either in a speech, email, or even a note in the newsletter), it might be time to find a new rabbi. Even better, it might be time to rethink your relationship with rabbis.
As Asher says perfectly here, there’s nothing that rabbis learn in their training that makes them remotely qualified to handle sexual abuse. Even @YUNews’ rabbinical school, a “Modern Orthodox” institution, offers no formal training to their students.
Why? Because Orthodoxy’s idea of the rabbi’s role, and in turn laypeople’s relationships with rabbis, is deeply, deeply skewed and unhealthy. People think rabbis have the answers for everything, that they’re God’s messengers on Earth because they spent a few years learning Torah.