Sometimes therapists, especially those new to the field, have a powerful wish to be good at their job. And, sometimes this wish clouds their view of their flaws and mistakes. The shame that comes from recognizing one has made a mistake that hurt a patient can be 1/3
2/3 overwhelming. And, it’s common to try to avoid that shame. But, it is important to stay open to the aspects of ourselves that we don’t like. Being aware of the kinds of mistakes and flaws we may have allows us to avoid defensiveness and validate the experience people