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The wife: He doesn't show me any affection; I feel estranged from him.

The husband: I work day and night in order to provide Halal sustenance for her and her children; there's no time left over to pay attention to her emotions/feelings.

🔑 The solution: ...
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"There is certainly for you in the Messenger of Allah an excellent example" (Qur'an translated meanings 33:21)

No one is busier or more preoccupied than the Prophet ﷺ was, yet he taught us that the solution lies in the quality time we spend with our spouses and at home.
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Here are some actions which don't take anything from your time, yet they demonstrate your love and help to maintain mercy between husband and wife:

I. The Prophet ﷺ said: "There is nothing you spend seeking Allah's pleasure except that you shall get a reward for it, ..
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..even for the morsel of food that you put in your wife's mouth" [Al-Bukhari].

How much time do you need to put a morsel of food in your wife's mouth while chewing your food?! And yet, when was the last time you did that?
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II. Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said: "The Prophet ﷺ used to recite the Qur'an with his head in my lap while I was having my period." [Al-Bukhari]. If You are going to recite Quran anyway, why not recite it the same way the Prophet ﷺ did? With no extra time added.
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III. Our mother Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) also said:
"I would drink from a vessel when I was menstruating, then hand it to the Prophet ﷺ, and he would put his mouth where mine had been and drink; and I would nibble meat from a bone, when I was menstruating,..
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..then hand it to the Prophet ﷺ, and he would put his mouth where mine had been." [Muslim]

He ﷺ would put his mouth where her mouth had been to show his love. Notice in these last two hadiths, our mother Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) said, "while I was..
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.. menstruating"; the time during which a woman becomes moody due to the physiological changes which are happening to her, and during which she needs her spouse to be especially patient and merciful with her.

How much time do you need to turn the cup or the piece of meat to..
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..put your mouth where your wife's mouth had been? Nothing.

Put simply; these actions and gestures will make your wife feel that you love her and that she means a lot to you, and not that she is just a maid for you and your children.
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And just as you wanted to get married to preserve your chastity, she also expects you to help her to do the same.

The Prophet ﷺ said: "Give everyone their due rights"

He ﷺ also said: "Treat women kindly".
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