Thread by @SanatanTalks

On the occasion of #ValentinesDay which is not at all part of our culture, A #Thread for people who read me here.

There are high possibility that we can be trapped into toxic relationship with manipulative people nowadays because of the society & culture shift we have.

Manipulative people are highly skilled at picking their victims. They select people who are vulnerable either because of their past or because they have high levels of empathy.

Here are 5 important things to understand:

1. Manipulative people identify their target, then make them feel like the most special person in the world by showering them with compliments, affection, and gifts. At the time, the victim is likely to feel like lucky to have them.

2. Gratitude can keep some people stuck in such relationships, because nobody is 100% bad all the time. You can always find evidence of the person being good, and that is the way in which they operate so that you will always have selective evidence.

3. This is especially hard for people with highly empathic nature to understand motive of manipulative people and who are often easy targets for them.

4. Psychological abuse is their tool, it's like an IV drip of poison entering your veins. When we're looking for something we want that we once had, the victim gets stuck on an emotional rollercoaster, and these people take advantage of it.

5. Manipulative person, exaggerates all their good points and refuse to believe any of their bad ones. This is confusing for their partner and they search inside themselves for the problem rather than realising their relationship is toxic because of altruism.

Now 5 immediate ways to not allowing them much space In Your Life:

1. Guard Your Time: Don’t allow such people to steal your time and energy. Immediately stop them allowing to your personal space. Guard yourself with target based activities for your own betterment.

2. Choose Your Attitude: Spending time with manipulative people can be the fastest way to ruin a good mood. Make a conscious effort to choose your attitude. Create a mantra, such as, “I’m going to stay positive today despite the people around me,” and repeat it often.

3. Refocus Your Thoughts: The more time you spend fretting, worrying, and rehashing, the less time you’ll have to devote to more important & productive things. Make a conscious effort to reduce the amount of mental energy you expend on manipulative people.

4. Choose to Behave Productively: Commit to controlling your emotional reactivity and staying true to your values, despite your circumstances. If needed Talk what is needed to the point, very professionally.

5. Seek Out Right People: Identify the positive people around you, mostly such people have right intentions. Engage with them. A quick lunch with a jovial colleague or family that’s guaranteed to be filled with laughter and this can help you stay safe and positive.

Decide that you’re not going to allow such people to determine how you think, feel, and behave. Focus your time and energy on becoming your best self. This will restrict everything else.

Jai Shree Ram 🙏