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Robert G. Callahan, II - you should follow me

Feb 15 • 8 tweets • 2 min read

Fellas, need the perfect gift a woman this #ValentinesDay?

I have THE. BEST. thing for your GF /wife, it’s not too late for it, & it won’t cost you a thing. Want to know what it is?

Egalitarianism. 🧵:

My wife & I have been married 17yrs + known ea/other 5yrs before that. Both raised in “model” complementarian, Godly homes. Both raised in the best ⚪️ evangelical, patriarchal, CN churches a 🐺 could want to dine in. Been to all the marriage conferences. Weekends to Remember.

Premarital counseling. Post-marital counseling. Love & Respect 🤢, DR Financial Peace Univ graduate w/ honors. A theobro among theobros. As to snark, the snarkiest. One of the most keep-women-in-their-place-but-in-love you could’ve cringed to meet. What changed me? Listening.

Listening to women taught me more about what Godly love for my spouse means than anything I was taught or caught elsewhere b/c complementarianism inevitably listens, pivots, & reasserts dominance. From that, *I* brought the issue to my wife & we explored it biblically together

…then *we* decided that egalitarianism is the only model for relationships that makes sense in God’s eyes. And you know what happened? My wife came to life. There was a mountain of patriarchy dressed up as godly doctrine that had been built up to keep her in place.

When we decided there were no more boundaries or limitations for her role in our home, church, or society it freed her up. And you know what else it did? It improved all facets of our love life. And it freed up other women & improved other marriages.

Long story short: maybe “grind it into your wife until she accepts your way” doesn’t work because it’s (a) not biblical, (b) not functional, (c) isn’t loving. You can sneer & roll your eyes but when you’re tired of having a mediocre love life maybe you’ll try full equality.

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