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🧵An important thread:
At some point, if u are #Disabled & dating someone new, no matter how much that person loves u, they may at some point or another receive what I call the *Friends & Family Warning⚠️*… where a friend or family member of theirs warns them not to date u. 1/5
At some point, if u are #Disabled & dating someone new, no matter how much that person loves u, they may at some point or another receive what I call the *Friends & Family Warning⚠️*… where a friend or family member of theirs warns them not to date u. 1/5
It’s at a times brutal moment when the projections of an insecure and ignorant society are projected on the you, the person you are dating, and the relationship itself. And it’s hard not to internalize it.
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The warning to your partner may sound like
👉“are you sure you want date someone who has a disability?” 👉“What if they get sicker?”
👉 “How will you be happy if they can’t do all the things you can do?”
👉“I’m just saying this because I care about you”
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👉“are you sure you want date someone who has a disability?” 👉“What if they get sicker?”
👉 “How will you be happy if they can’t do all the things you can do?”
👉“I’m just saying this because I care about you”
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But here’s what they mean
👉“I struggle w/ caretaking & maintaining boundaries, u must struggle too”
👉“I’m terrified of death & I don’t want it close to me or you”
👉“I haven’t done work around ablism & don’t see disabled people as whole individuals“
👉“I don’t trust you” 4/5
👉“I struggle w/ caretaking & maintaining boundaries, u must struggle too”
👉“I’m terrified of death & I don’t want it close to me or you”
👉“I haven’t done work around ablism & don’t see disabled people as whole individuals“
👉“I don’t trust you” 4/5
People with disabilities are whole, dignified, complex, and worthy of love, even when it feels like everyone around us is working out their own sh*t. It’s all projections of internalized fear and pain. You are loved ❤️
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