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WHAT TO DO WHEN GIRLS RESIST YOUR INIVITATION

Whether you're with her in person or setting up a date, sometimes a girl will completely dodge your suggestion for the two of you to head somewhere private. When this happens, look out!

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It's not an accident when a woman declines to go somewhere quieter and more private with you or come see you at home.

Unless she's a complete social newbie (and there are SOME girls like this... most AREN'T though!) she knows what she's doing.

What's she doing?

She is preventing the courtship from advancing to the "beginning of intimacy" stage.

See, you need somewhere more INTIMATE to start making things intimate.

You can get them truly intimate in a crowded bar or a public restaurant, and she knows that.

Even if you do manage to spike her arousal, you won't be able to maintain it there... and again, she knows that.

So what YOU need to figure out is why.

Why won't she let you proceed things with her to the next step?

There are several potential reasons:

1. She's interested in you, but she isn't ready for that yet

2. She's interested in you, but logistical reasons block progress

3. She isn't interested in you, and is simply using you for something

Let's have a little look at each.

#1: INTERESTED BUT UNREADY

This is when a girl DOES like you, yet she isn't prepared to move to the next step yet.

There are various reasons that COULD be:

1. She doesn't feel connected enough yet. Solution: more deep diving / build more similarity

2. Your attainability's too low. Solution: be more relatable, and use other attainability raising maneuvers

3. You haven't built enough compliance. Solution: build more compliance, obviously! Ask her to move closer to you, show you things, hand you things, tell you things, do things for you

4. It's just a test. Solution: if it's a test, often all you need to do is control the frame. This is why it’s important to understand frame control and she'll comply

Regardless the reason, what you do in the SITUATION is to stay relaxed and keep doing what you're doing, except also solving for what you think the issue is.

If you aren't sure what the issue is, try a little of each strategy.
Observe if her behavior changes / she responds better to any of them.
If NOTHING works, it may be that she isn't actually interested... or that it's logistics blocking the way.

#2: SHE'S INTERESTED, BUT FOR LOGISTICS

Much of the time when logistics are the reason, women will tell you.
That's like, "I'd like to go with you but I have to watch my friend."
Or, "I'd love to come but I have a go out with my friend that day."

You have a couple different ways to tackle logistical blockages:

1. Do nothing and hope the situation resolves itself. This is what most beginners do. It sucks up time but often doesn't work. I don't recommend this.

2. Propose an immediate solution (if possible). If she has to watch her friend, might her friend be fine alone? Or could you drop the friend off... or even bring her too?

3. Reconvene another time. If she has to go do something that day, then meet her another day. Straightforward, right?

If she ALWAYS has logistics issues, then either she's the busiest girl in the world, or she doesn't actually want things to progress with you and is using logistics as an excuse.

In that case, she's either in our #1 category, and she does like you but there's something else she needs to proceed... or she's in our #3 category.

#3: SHE ISN'T INTERESTED, AND IS USING YOU

The dead giveaway for this is if she frames things in a way that is obviously inconsiderate of your time and dismissive.

So for example, telling you to come take her to dinner then you can go where you want after because she has things to do after dinner is dismissive.
That is her saying, "Come do what I want you to do for me, then you can do whatever you want by yourself, I don't care."

Unless what she wants from you is a good piping, she is almost certainly using you for something you aren't going to appreciate.
Not every girl who's "using you" will have that dead giveaway, but many will.
The PROS often will.

It's a screening tool for them: the men desperate enough to give them what they want in exchange for "a chance" will ignore their dismissal and play along anyway.

Meanwhile, the men who are going to be difficult for them select themselves out, freeing up the woman's time to focus on men who'll be simps.

There are other girls who may try to seem considerate, but are just NEVER available for anything on your terms.

Everything they do with you has to be something they want to do, on their terms:
• They name the place
• They name the activity
•They name the date and time
It's all on their terms.
These girls, too, are using you.

It might be for a free food, free drinks, or just free company...
... but regardless, if you never get to set the terms, you will not EVER be able to get a girl like this alone with you.

And if you think she'll orchestrate something where the two of you get to be alone, you've got another thing coming!

THE BEST THING TO DO...
Figure out if she's a #1, #2, or #3 girl.
#2s are the best. You just need to solve the logistics issue and they're yours.
#1s you can work with. Figure out what their issue is, then resolve it. You may be able to pull them soon.

#3s are a non starter. As soon as you realize a girl's a #3, cut her loose.
Sure, she gets excited for men SOMETIMES.

But if you're already at the point where she's playing those games with you, it's too far gone to be worth the hassle of trying (and failing) to turn it into something else.

REGARDLESS... a woman who resists your pulls or invitations to go somewhere private is telling you there's an issue for you to solve.
It might be she isn't ready yet and needs more from you.
It might be there's a logistical issue for you to solve, whether now or later.

Or it might be she isn't interested at all and just wants to GET stuff from you.
Whichever it is, you won't get anywhere by just "going with the flow" and hoping she "changes her mind."

You must figure out WHAT the issue is... then take action to RESOLVE it.
Do so, and much of the time you may still end up with the girl... even though she initially resisted your invitation.

Catch you on the flip side

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