DSM🩺 1. Deficits in social-emotional reciprocity, ranging, for example, from abnormal social approach and failure of normal back-and-forth conversation; to reduced sharing of interests, emotions, or affect; to failure to initiate or respond to social interactions.
Autistic 🌕 1. I don’t have deficits in social reciprocity. I socialize in my own autistically normal way. I love discussing topics that I’m interested in and prefer deep convos to banal chit chat or small talk. I don’t always read NT social cues & they often miss mine as well.
What if I told you that so many things you think are bad or distasteful or need fixing in Autistics are actually neuronormative myths?
As an #Autistic psychotherapist, I can tell you that the following pieces of how we might be are actually quite fine and healthy.
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Eye contact. Eye contact doesn’t make you a better person. It doesn’t make you honest or calm or kind. Eye contact isn’t culturally consistently polite. It doesn’t indicate mental health or connection. Ask my blind friends who do both those things just fine. Stop chasing my eyes.
Socializing with small talk, parties, vaguely, in groups of three or more, about the weather, in order to ascertain social hierarchy, w/ nonconsensual touch is not qualitatively better than connection through parallel play, infodumping, monologue, shared interests, time, or art.
I have a new special interest!
Ring the bells.
I’m currently fascinated by how #Autistic and #ADHD processing can create hoarding/difficulty letting go of items/excessive acquiring. 🧵
I’m not talking about taking away beloved special interest collections but rather those who want to have more space/less clutter/use of all areas/more ease in executive functioning in their living spaces and how neurodivergent thinking impacts choice indecision around objects.
-We are “under inclusive” in how we group objects. Where an NT might see shoes 👟 they go with the shoes. NDs see 👠 that is special and could belong to dress up category, or memorabilia, or dance wear, or sexy times etc. Potentiality and specialness impact categorizing.