PSA that my brother is still being burdened by a false rape allegation. Since July he has been called a rapist in front of a crowd of people, kicked out of concert venues, slandered online, been physically assaulted and received threats of violence. And there is NOTHING we can do
We’ve sat down with a lawyer, reached out to others, and just this week went to police after my brother was KICKED OUT OF A CONCERT because of this. The girl who accused him REFUSED to talk to police. So now what can we do? Nothing.
Nobody will stand up for my brother, despite literal PROOF (ie text conversations bw them) that nothing happened between this girl and my brother. Because nobody wants to face social backlash for not siding with a girl making a rape allegation.
So now my brother feels hopeless, lives in constant fear of being hurt by someone, fear that he’s lost his ability to pursue his passions (music), and fear that they may try to sabotage his job. We have provided evidence of his innocence, we have tried to
combat the allegations, we have even tried REASONING with this girl’s deluded group of followers that keeps perpetuating this lie. Asking them “what do you want to get this to end?”. We get NOTHING.
This girl is abusing the culture we have built to HELP survivors of assault. She’s abusing our empathy. She is abusing our attempt to do right by survivors by hearing their stories and saying “I believe you”. Because she KNOWS nobody wants to consider that someone would lie.
It’s people like this that build doubt! It’s the people that make false allegations that silence and squash the voices of people who have been victimized. IT’S DISGUSTING. And from where we’re sitting, there’s no change that we can make, no action we can take to stop it.
My brother went to police despite our lawyer recommending we stay away, because according to the lawyer, there was a chance my brother could be arrested as as a rapist merely for reporting the false allegation. Because they always assume he is guilty FIRST.
When the police went to contact her and her friends, she refused. Because she knows there is text evidence of her talking about how they didn’t have sex, and her APOLOGIZING for being pushy with my brother. Because as long as she doesn’t press charges, she can keep
the narrative going that my brother is guilty. I’m scared for my brother. I’m scared that he’s in danger. I’m scared that he’s been joking about killing himself over this. I’m scared that he cant participate in the things he loves anymore. I’m scared that he could lose his job.
I don’t know what to take away from this experience that we’re dealing with. I feel so hopeless. Seeing the way that these people spin the narrative and manipulate people’s emotions is alarming. And I wonder how many other people are dealing w this.
Also. The most BITTER irony: one of the girls perpetuating this runs a booth @ our local concerts called “safer gigs” (making a safe space at concerts), and WAIT FOR IT: Her boyfriend is an ADMITTED RAPIST. Like admitted to raping a girl! And he helps run the booth!
And when I called her out for this, my tweet got flagged! She’s so obsessed with “kicking rapists out of the music scene” and her gd boyfriend is a rapist!!! And it’s something she talks about openly because he’s “working to redeem himself” HAHAHAHA FFS
We are working every day to find a way to make this end. Thank you to everyone for their support in this so far. I’m sure it will give my brother hope to keep fighting. Thank you for hearing the REAL victim’s side.
Also this should go without saying but this isn’t saying you shouldn’t believe people when they come forward! If you’ve been assaulted please do not feel discouraged! Please don’t let these awful liars stop you from seeking your own justice <3
ALSO: many people are recommending we charge her for defamation/harrassment/libel etc. Please know that we did talk to our lawyer about this and it is something we would love to do, however:
First: cost. A civil case comes right out of our family’s pocket, and the estimate the lawyer ballparked for us is not something we have the ability to pay up front. Even if our terms include she pays if we win, lawyer says we will prob NEVER see that money.
We live in Canada, things operate a little differently than the USA with regards to paying up. Furthermore, if we charge for any of those things, the burden of proof then lands on my brother to prove that he is being defamed/harasses/etc. If it was as simple as proving he
didn’t rape her, we would have ZERO issues. However, according to our lawyer, suing for defamation/slander for example requires you prove that this has affected you in your job, financially, etc. And right now the repercussions are only social.
With the exception of the fears he has about his wellbeing, but the lawyer said it might not be enough. Courts are apparently VERY stingy with these kinds of cases. Because a lot of this harrassment comes from local concerts (my brothers passion), almost everyone has told us
“Well just stop going to the concerts!” Which may be exactly what the courts say. Or “just delete your social media”. Then there’s the issue of some of the people hiding identities online. Believe me, we are working to a solution but it’s not really as simple as “sue her ass!”
I could cry. The support you guys have shown my brother and my family literally has restored my hope that we can fight this. My brother finally sees that people are on his side. I can’t thank you all enough for spreading the truth about what we’re going through 💕
These are their first texts from the day after they hung out. For context: the girl wanted to have sex with him and he was unable to become aroused (was not attracted to her), which he felt guilty about. 
This was around a month or two after the previous texts/when they hung out. She continued to pursue my brother, asking to hang out constantly and becoming irritable/upset when my brother said he was busy.
She made the allegations months later, after my brother had stopped talking to her when he moved away, and she became friends with my brother’s ex-girlfriend. This ex girlfriend has been a huge orchestrator in perpetuating the lies against my brother.
One of the threats from one of the accuser’s friends from a string of tweets a few weeks ago where they also claimed my brother “pushed a girl really hard” in the mosh pit of a hardcore concert 🙄
I believe these texts were from just BEFORE the allegations came out. The accuser had been pursuing my brother up until this point and became upset when she realized my bro wasn’t romantically interested
