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Spandex/cosplay costumer, food blogger. Author of cookbooks and sewing manuals. INTJ/P, outspoken, #ActualAutistic, Adult Figure Skater. I rant a lot. #HamOnt
13 Sep
You know, I hope the politicians being targeted by Big ABA realize that what's happening to them is a demonstration of what they're doing to young kids.

A politician tweets or speaks in support of #ActuallyAutistic people, & that is a PROBLEMATIC BEHAVIOUR to be extinguished.
If the communication isn't what they want (support for their abuse), they seek to beat it - and the speaker - into submission.

Now imagine that you're a five year old, and that anger and hatred is being aimed at your "problematic behaviour"...
... but your "behaviour" is something like self-soothing by strumming your fingers, or flapping.

Or it actually is your speech, they just don't like what you're saying (echolalia, perhaps?).
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5 Sep
While I'm letting the world know about everything annoying me at the moment, can we talk about protests?

I have friends that were shot at in the Minneapolis protests, and it seems like no peaceful priest can happen without water cannons, gas, etc.

Even in Canada.
... but unhinged, less-than-peaceful antivax protests *at hospitals*, DURING A PANDEMIC?

Ah, just let them do their thing, I guess?
It's literally not possible to have a peaceful antivax protest at a hospital during a pandemic, especially when blocking access.

That is violence, and it's definitely terrorism.

But hey, different demographic protesting.
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5 Sep
Just saw that an ABA profiteer referred to anti-ABA autistics (ie: the vast majority of us) as "the antivaxxers of the autism world".

Imagine referring to a marginalized group as the "(their oppressors) of (their) world".

That's like saying "Jews are the Nazis of Judaism". Huh?
One day, I'm going to stop being surprised at how ridiculous ABA profiteers and Warrior parents are, but I'm sure there's something just around the corner that will top even this.

"Black people are the KKK of the POC world!".

Do they hear themselves? Absolutely ridiculous.
Up until the pandemic that affected *everyone*, autistics were the #1 target of antivaxxers, and we were constantly victimized by them, used as boogeyman in their agendas, etc.

"The antivaxxers of the autism world"!!

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28 Aug
I feel like I'm not seeing many fingers pointed at @autismspeaks @autismspeaksCAN over all of the needles deaths during this pandemic.

They sowed the fear and hatred of autistics that fueled the antivax movement and allowed it to flourish, after all.
Autism $peaks spawned countless "personalities", made an entire industry of screaming about how "awful" autism is.

How many people have died as a result of that movement, just so that pockets could be lined as a result of those fear/hatred campaigns, I wonder?
Err, needless
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23 Aug
My day started out by reading that the org of autism "Warrior parents" that have been screaming about being silenced by those of us - that they decided to abuse - are...

... Approaching the government to cause trouble for @kemalahmedproud at a guest speaker gig.

Again, the complete lack of self awareness is stunning.

If you're a member of a majority group that is harming a marginalized group, you don't get to throw tantrums about being *silenced* when that minority group speaks up about the abuse.

Then there's the wild hypocrisy of literally trying to get the government to step in and prevent a member of that marginalized group from appearing as a guest speaker at a school board...

... While you're screaming about being "silenced" by that marginalized group.
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21 Aug
While I've got the rabid "Warrior parents" freaking out at me, let me point out:

ABA is a multi billion dollar industry.

Many of the parents who attack autistic adults over it sit on boards of orgs that *raise money* to feed into Big ABA.

Autistics don't get paid to fight it.
We fight it - investing our time, money, and spoons to do so - because it's the right thing to do.

We don't financially benefit, all we get is a better future for autistic kids.

And that's enough.

Follow the money, when you're looking at who is fighting for what...
... ESPECIALLY when it's people fighting against a marginalized group.

Especially when that marginalized group points out how abusive what the oppressors are fighting for actually is.

It's not "therapy". It's compliance training deemed inappropriate for even DOGS.
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29 Apr
Just heard of a local autism organization (not run by autistics), that's hosting an awards night to recognize - ahem -

"Autism difference makers" (sic)

Oh boy.

First off, for an org that habitually dehumanizes us, those are... Definitely a choice of words. Yikes.
Secondly... Wow.

Is there any other marginalized group that's dealt with like this?

Where a group of people *adjacent* to a marginalized group hosts awards to celebrate themselves?

Imagine a group of white people having awards to recognize white "difference makers" for POC.
Or a group of straights hosting awards to recognize straight "difference makers" for GLBT people.

Super cringe.

... So why is it acceptable when it comes to #ActuallyAutistic people?

And how are we the ones pegged with "don't understand social skills"?
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27 Apr
It is WILD to watch how poorly information is getting out about the menstruation related side effects of one (??) of the vaccines.

I posted a question about it on Facebook, and that's how one of my trans men friends found out that it was A THING ...a week after his "surprise".
The stigma on discussing anything to do with gyno health is really leaving people in the dark on this.

One friend had a monster period, had no idea that was also A THING with her vaccine, and had to go through a bunch of doctor appointments and testing. IN THE USA. Yikes - $$$.
So, in case you haven't heard, I'll do my part to put it out there.

People who haven't had periods in years (trans men, certain birth control, chemical menopause) are reporting surprise periods after getting vaccinated.
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31 Mar
Well, April is about to start.

While this mostly means spring, fresh air, going outside, spring break, etc... for autistic people, this is the most stressful, dehumanizing, and awful time of the year.

You see, April is " #AutismAwarenessMonth ".

You would think it would be a month about us, learning about us, coming to an understanding and maybe learning to have empathy for the #ActuallyAutistic, but - in general - that's not the case.

No, April ends up being a month to center the parents of autistic children.
You know, because being centered 11 other months of the year isn't enough.

April is when we see an increase in well-meaning (I hope?) posts about autism, featuring the parents of autistics, rather than autistics themselves.
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23 May 20
Another day, another autistic kid murdered by their monster of a parent.

... And another article like this one.

Can we talk about the multiple layers of grossness here, and how it differs from coverage of murdered allistic kids?…
Seriously, why mention that the kid "may have been overwhelmed" by home schooling at all, much less in an article that's already quoted his murderer about how he's "in a better place now”?

It's murder, quit wrapping it up as merciful. That was a CHILD murdered by his mother!
The father saying he doesn't believe what they're saying about the *child murderer* he's married to, like she didn't confess to *multiple* attempts?

This doesn't come out of nowhere. A parent looking to kill their autistic kid shows their contempt for that kid long in advance.
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20 Mar 20
"Autism moms" joking and memeing about how "dealing with" an autistic kid has made them "vets" of social isolation is gross on so many levels.

Rant incoming.
For one, we're facing a nasty pandemic that's literally shutting countries down.

Now, I realize that the real "super power" that autism moms possess is to make literally everything ALL about them, but for this once... Could. You. NOT?

Good lord.
Secondly, "Vets"? Does anyone else get grossed out by the use of military/battle/war terminology used by "autism moms".

Not only are they "vets" "battling" us in their "war on autism", they frequently compare their stress levels to wartime soldiers.

You're no vet, Karen. Sit.
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11 Feb 20
Well, last night's feeling that April is starting *early* was validated today, with @autismspeaks 's announcements.

So, as a PSA for those who want to do right by #ActuallyAutistic people ... Don't buy into it. Any of it.

It sounds lovely, but is very problematic. (Thread)
The idea that the change of logo design came from *listening* to autistics is laughable at best.

Someone who was listening wouldn't have merely re-coloured the puzzle piece that the community finds offensive.
They wouldn't have left the dominant colour blue, as they would have heard the community's thoughts on how the gendering of autism hurts girls, women, and non-binary folks when it comes to matters of DX and representation.
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15 Jan 20
The first thing I saw on Twitter today - just awful. I have a few #ActuallyAutistic thoughts on this bigotry and misinformation.

A thread, assuming I can figure out where to even start. What a mess.
I guess let's go top down.

If we "appear unresponsive", it's because we're ignoring you, Karen. Allistic people tend to have no idea how loud and obnoxious they can be, never mind how overbearing and in-your-face they can be. It's all too much- shutting down helps shut it OUT.
"Eye contact" is a thing that varies wildly from culture to culture, and feels/means something different to different people. Would you be so dehumanizing about people from a different country who aren't as obsessed with making.maintaining eye contact?

Wait, don't answer that.
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24 Nov 19
Heads up, giant #ActuallyAutistic rant incoming. CW for abuse.
Twitter, I've been seeing a lot of disturbing articles about "seclusion rooms" being used against #ActuallyAutistic kids in both Canada and the USA... and the comments sections on them can be... well, something. So, I’d like to say a few words.
For one, I think that people come up with some pretty wild ideas in their heads about autistic kids, to justify seeing inhumanity as somehow being reasonable. Allow me to go off on a slight tangent here.
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7 Jun 19
I'm so tired of violent behaviour being blamed on anyone but the aggressor. "You pushed her into this" is not different than "If she would have just gone out with him, he wouldn't have shot all those people".

I am worried for her autistic kid.
It's funny how "Oh, person in crisis! Not responsible for actions!" rhetoric/sympathy is never extended to autistic people in crisis... especially when in meltdowns intentionally provoked by people LIKE this violent "warrior mom".
Just so we're all on the same page here, this article details the nature of the threats this "Warrior Mom" has been making:…
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11 Apr 19
So, in an effort to raise a bit more #AutismAwareness, I’d like to discuss “elopement”. I invite other autistics to add in their own experiences - this could be educational! - but as far as what I’m about to say, I’m really just speaking to my own experience and thoughts.
First, I’d like to say that “elopement” is a ridiculous term. Right up there with “differently abled”, IMHO. It’s running away. It’s wandering. Call it what it is!

Secondly - and this is in response to a person who came at me yesterday - no one “dies from elopement”,
just like no one dies from “running away”. Yes, there are all kinds of ways that one can meet their end running away, but those would be the cause of death - drowning, starvation, hypothermia, murder, etc. I don’t know why “died from elopement” rubs me the wrong way, but it does.
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9 Apr 19
Mini #AutismAwareness rant: One thing I really resent about the warrior mom / pro ABA narrative is how they've weaponized the term "evidence based". Their big thing about ABA is that it's "evidence based" - but the statement is extremely problematic without context.
"Evidence based" in the case, means "evidence that the behaviour has changed". Fair enough - they do change the kids. However, the change is a trauma reaction. If you break a kid down to where they bottle everything up, rather than self regulate? Not a good thing.
If you destroy a child's sense of autonomy, in order to elicit compliance - especially for things the child does NOT want? Leaving that kid with PTSD for life - a reality for most ABA survivors? Not good things.

None of this comes up when saying "evidence based", however.
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7 Apr 19
Just noticed there’s some more “othering” of self diagnosed autistics going on, so I’m going to drop some #ActuallyAutistic views on the subject - As a formally diagnosed autistic.

Let's go ahead and consider this some more education in the name of #AutismAwarenessMonth.
Now - I don’t believe myself to be “greater than” those who are self diagnosed by virtue of my formal diagnosis, but I Think I should put it out there as cred. Consider it using my privilege for good.

Most places won’t cover DX (Bizarre, with how medicalized autism is in public discourse!), and assessment can be prohibitively expensive. Even for those who have it covered / can afford it, there can be huge waiting lists. Assessment comes with many barriers.
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5 Apr 18
Ok guys, here we have it: The kitchen I designed / my husband built, using the tree that destroyed our house in the tornado!
(with 159 digits of pi tiled into the backsplash)
Our neighbourhood had a ton of gorgeous, 100+ year old hardwood trees that got ripped up like they were nothing. Mostly oak and - like ours - black walnut. It made me so sad to see everyone cutting them up into manageable pieces to dispose of. I GET it, but still - such a loss.
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