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I am angry.
I am hurt.
And I am afraid.

I just picked the children up from their visitation w their domestically abusive father.

My daughtr gets in the car & starts telling me how this visit was a little better for her. Then she tells me WHY it was better...
Do you remember the last dropoff, when my 12yo panicked and fought bc she didn't want her abusive dad to touch her and he wouldn't stop? The incident that she talked about in the subtweeted video above? Do you remember that he told her if she refused his affection, he'd slap her?
My 12yo girl told me that THIS visit was better bc she figured, if she cant make him stop, if fighting him off won't work, then she'd make a deal with him, that even though she didn't want him to hug her, she would tell him he could if he agreed not to tickle her & other touches.
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#DVAM I consistently see people are unable to identify abusers. Many incorrectly believe that the abuser needs to be visibly angry and yell at the victim.

There’s a type of abuser who thrives bc of this myth, called the “Water Torturer” by Lundy Bancroft The Water Torturer: a calm abuser who harms their victim with cruelty, derision, sarcasm, gaslighting, and mockery.
Core attributes of this abuser:

- they believe the victim is crazy & gets upset over nothing
- they easily convince others that the victim is the problematic one
- as long as they are calm, they think they can be as abusive and cruel as they want
- payback-oriented
Even if they’re calm during an argument, they are incredibly abusive. Everything the victim thinks is wrong and he undermines her with disrespectful and cruel tactics like

- openly laughing at the her
- mimicking her words/voice
- twisting everything she says
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It's Domestic Violence Awareness Month. And the first thing I want you to think about is Traumatic Brain Injuries (TBIs) in the NFL.

(No really. It will connect. Keep reading.)

Did you see how many Traumatic Brain Injuries (TBIs) happen in the NFL each year? 281!

Holy cow. That's awful.

And as shocking as that is, it's WAY worse in the military.

Our soldiers experience 18,000 Traumatic Brain Injuries each year. 18,000!!!
Wanna guess how many women have Traumatic Brain Injuries each year because their violent male partner beat them up?


That's right: 1,600,000 TBIs for women each year from intimate partner violence (IPV).…
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This tragedy is repeated daily in America. Women are murdered by men who claim to love them.

#LaurenMcCluskey was one of those victims.

My heart breaks for this family who lost the light of their life because a man wouldn't take no for an answer.

It's #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth. Men can begin to be abusive as soon as you start dating.

I wrote about the dangers here.…
It's #DomesticViolenceAwarenessMonth. Men often start to control women as soon as they begin dating.

The most dangerous time for women is when they say no.

I wrote about #DomesticViolence and guns and how little we do as a nation to protect DV victims.…
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