Today is World Narcissist Abuse Awareness Day.
Not all abusers who #coercivecontrol are #narcissists but a significant number are, so it’s useful to understand not only what narcissism is, but also that it falls on a continuum.
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#WNAAD
Many personality psychologists believe that there are five core personality traits. These are often referred to as the "Big 5" personality traits:
- extroversion
- agreeableness
- openness
- conscientiousness
- neuroticism
More here:
verywellmind.com/the-big-five-p…
#narcissism
Being on the extremes of any of these traits is not healthy.
Benign narcissists have milder versions of the patterns observed in #narcissism:
- Entitlement
- Low levels of empathy
- Arrogance
- Superficiality
- validation seeking
- overly sensitive to criticism
Benign #narcissists tend to lead with:
- Validation seeking
- Superficiality
They are attractive - the ‘ life and soul of the party’ - they love attention, are extroverts and addicted to ‘ likes’ and selfies on social media but are not as disregulated as other narcissists.
The benign #narcissist can be very immature which, over time, can be tiresome.
They are the *fun* parent but still put their needs above their child and aren’t up for the less than fun parenting like boundary setting.
For more:
by @DoctorRamani
The Covert Narcissist
These are the victimised, vulnerable, anxious, socially less skilled, sullen, resentful narcissists who can also exhibit hostility.
They are still entitled, arrogant, validation-seeking but it looks and feels different when you’re in their presence.
They think they know more than the experts and will criticise people who attempt something. They sit at home waiting for opportunity to magically show up.
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Neglectful Narcissists
Narcissists that are detached, barely respond and have little or no interest in you.
Their lack of empathy will show as an utter lack of regard for you.
They stopped noticing you a long time ago.
They may not be doing this with everybody and this is what makes it hurt more.
More here:
Communal Narcissists
They get their validation from doing things for other people, or for causes and organisations and drawing a lot of self-serving attention to it.
If the validation doesn’t come, they won’t be pleased and may very well take it out on the people close to them.
This could be taking it out on their partner or children if they did not get enough validation for their do-gooding.
Essentially they make sure that their do-gooding makes them look good too.
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