Thread by @CandiceBenbow

I wanted the best way to tell my neighbor that he tried it with his late night party. So I wrote him a letter and baked him a cake.

The update is, thankfully, there is no update. I knocked on his door but he didn’t answer so I had to leave it in a bag on his door. When I left out, it wasn’t on his door anymore. So I’m taking that to mean he got and read it.

Folks are calling what I did extra. It was extra AF. Throwing a house party at 3am is extra AF, too.

“Why didn’t you just go over there?” I live alone. I didn’t know who/what I could’ve met going by myself. And it was 3AM!!! I’m not getting dressed to leave my apartment at 3am because niggas wanna be inconsiderate. Plus, I couldn’t find my bra. It was 3am. 🤷🏽‍♀️

“Why didn’t you call 911?” I ONLY call police for emergencies. They are killing us every other day and getting away with it. Had anything resulted in an unfortunate outcome, not only would my safety be at risk, I’d feel horrible. I don’t call the police on us if I can help it.

Ultimately, as a single woman, I gotta be mindful of how I navigate tense situations. I have to live here, too. I knew I needed to say something. I was looking for a way that didn’t make it confrontational. Plus I really love to bake! 🤣

I know folks are saying they wouldn’t eat the cake but I hope he takes into consideration that I put my real name on the letter, wouldn’t incriminate myself and just wouldn’t be that mean! LOL!

So I hope he eats the cake but more than that, I hope he doesn’t do that shit again!!

AND HIS MUSIC TONIGHT IS THE LOWEST IT HAS EVER BEEN! #PrayerAndPoundCakeWork

UPDATE: I JUST MET MY NEIGHBOR TOMMY!!!! He’s so freaking cool! He apologized for the noise, promised to invite me to the next party and most importantly...HE SAID MY POUND CAKE WAS AMAZING!!!!

My neighbor is a music video producer. EVERYTHING makes sense now. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

While talking to Tommy, I learned that he's new to the area as well *and* this is his first Christmas without his daughter, who passed away earlier this year in a car accident.

Yall know how rough grieving was for me in the months following Mama's death. I can only imagine what it would have felt like for someone to confront me with anger when I'm trying my best to get through my first holiday season.

It was a sweet and gentle reminder that we never know what folks are going through and it is always best to lead with kindness. When we can extend grace, we really should.

So I’m shooting my shot&asking someone to take a chance on a holiday movie about a Southern girl w/a baking blog moving to NYC to become a writer&she moves next door to a loud, cute music video director! @ava @LenaWaithe @IssaRae @hallmarkchannel @OWNTV @willpowerpacker @netflix

We did Inside Edition today and a news crew will be here later! So dope to see what kindness can do! So proud of Tommy for finding a way to thrive this year! (SN: I met a neighbor after the interview who said, “I saw this on Twitter and had no idea that it was here!” 🤣🤣)

Everybody say hi to Tommy: @teevisual

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