Now that I have a good approach, I actually love writing letters. Crazy, I know!
2/ Since many are in the throes of letters (or just finished) thought I’d share my approach. I welcome your insights, too!
Cool? Cool.
Let’s 1st assume that the person you’ve agreed to recommend, is 1 you CAN recommend. If you can’t? You owe it to them to be honest. But how?
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Them: “Do you think you can write a strong letter of recommendation for me?”
You: “I’m concerned that our time together didn't afford me the chance to see you at your best. May I support you in a different way?”
Hopefully, you gave tons of feedback so this isn’t a shock.
4/ Pro-tip: Take out the guessing by letting learners know that you’d be willing to write a letter when you give end-of-rotation evaluation. It spares everyone cryptic meeting requests and saves time.
Now for the letter.
I start by sending them some questions to answer. Yep.
5/ For starters:
* WHAT are my strongest attributes? What am I MOST proud of about myself?
* WHAT have I done that could set me apart from other applicants? What is my unique strength?
* HOW would my peers describe me? What makes me a good teammate?
But wait. There’s more.
6/ The next is the pièce de résistance:
* WHAT would I want to MAKE SURE programs knew that I have done?
* WHAT hardships (if you are willing to share) might cause you to be misunderstood? (optional)
* HOW can I best advocate for you in this letter?
Remember: We're advocates.
7/ I also ask to see their CV AND their personal statement. Why? Because sometimes the cool things that they couldn’t fit into the PS or that are buried in the CV can get slipped in by me in my letter.
Completed an Ironman?
Raised $20K for an urban garden?
I got you. 👊🏾
8/ I can also be WAY more effusive about you than YOU can in your personal statement. Sure can.
Also:
Who are YOU to be writing this letter? I like to say that in my 1st paragraph. Work with nearly every student in your role? Been at this for 30 years?
Why not share that?
9/ In what capacity do you know the learner? Be specific.
What did you see? Share what will attest to their potential in their next step. What did you see? Be specific and personal.
Does it take longer to do this? Yes.
Does it make a difference? Fo sho.
Yup.
10/
How does this learner compare to who you’ve seen?
Make a clear statement of recommendation.
Bring it home, man.
Read it again. If the letter could not be changed to support a different person? It’s personal enough. If you can change names and pronouns and reuse?
Hmmm.
11/ Here’s my cheat sheet:
P1: Who am I & how I know you
P2: Character traits observed with supporting specific example
P3: Peer descriptions and what you’re proud of
P4: How you compare to others, +/- clarity on speed bumps
P5: Statement of rec, bring it on home
Easy, right?
12/ I think of a letter of recommendation as an opportunity to be a piece of someone’s dream. Of course, learners vary greatly and it isn’t always easy. But the older I get in #MedEd, the more I want to be a good steward of my influence. And that starts with intention.
Yup.
13/
My caveat is that I’m not a large program PD or a Chair writing 40 letters. But as one who writes about 8 – 10 annually & doesn’t want them to be cookie cutter, this has helped me a ton.
But best of all this happens—and reminds you that it was worth it. #supportisaverb 👊🏾
Last/
Of course, there are LOTS of expert insights which are also helpful! I'd love to hear your pro-tips, too. But most of all, I just hope to never read identical letters for different people ever again.
P.S. One of my LORs as a student was identical to a classmate.🙁
I call it “the drop.” I use it in my closing to underscore wellroundedness. Ex: “Whether completing a full Iron Man, advocating for a patient, or completing our manuscripts, her tenacity and follow through are among her greatest strengths.”👊🏽
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Me: “I know other people have mentioned this to you already, but just wanted to check in about the #COVIDVaccine. I’m told you’re still thinking about it.”
You: “Yeah.”
*silence*
Me: “Wait, so yeah, you thinking about it?”
You: “Yeah.”
2/ *laughter*
Me: “Would you be okay with me talking to you a little more about it? Like, to give you more things to consider as you deliberate about it?”
You: “Yeah.”
You gave one eyebrow a playful raise.
Me: “Yeah?”
You: “Yeah.”
3/ You: “Although I think I done heard everything you ‘bout to say.”
I gave a hard nod and thought for a moment.
Me: “Okay. Then I need your help.”
You: “Help how?”
Me: “I have your ear but I sort of don’t know what to say. So I’m hoping you can tell me what’s stopped you.”
1/ You used such beautiful words. Words like “gingerly” to describe how you approached the physical therapy maneuvers you tried that morning. And “cacophony” in reference to the food tray someone accidentally knocked to the floor.
I loved them all.
2/ Me: “You have such beautiful words. Such lovely and unexpected ones. It’s becoming my favorite thing on rounds this week.”
You: “Oh, aren’t words just grand? And so many to choose.”
You released a gentle chuckle. Then you coughed.
But gingerly.
3/ And so. Because it was established that we were both lovers of words, I closed each visit the same.
Me: “So what’s the word?”
And each time you would smile, stare off for a beat, and then share one.
Him: "I like the way you look at me."
Me: "Excuse me, sir?"
Him: "I mean. . . I like how your eyes look at me."
His words caught me off guard. I’d only been there a few moments. It seemed misplaced.
Me: "I want to receive that. Tell me what you mean, sir."
2/ Him: "It's like your eyes they look at me like . . . I don't know. Like I'm somebody worth you looking at.”
Me: *listening*
Him: “Like they happy to see me. Do that make sense?"
Me: "I think so."
*silence*
3/ Him: "It’s like, when you came in here, you put your eyes on me and right off they told me. Like you made up your mind even 'fore you came in here. Like, 'So what about what he look like or what stuff he got going on. He worth my time.’ I could tell.”
Them: "Hey Dr. M. You busy?"
Me: "Not at the moment. What's up?"
Them: "Wondering if you could weigh in on rash on our new patient. It's on her backside. Kind of looks like yeast but I'm not sure."
Me: *listening*
Them: *pointing at door* "She's in bed 2."
2/ Me: "Okey dokey."
Them: "I need to run and see someone with chest pain. Can you let me know if I should call derm after you look?"
Me: "Yup."
I watched the resident disappear down the corridor as I stopped to open the chart in the EMR.
Ooooh. A Grady elder.
Yay.
3/ I approached bed 2 and noticed that the curtain was pulled all the way closed.
Me: *knocking on wall* "Hellooooo. . . "
When I came around the pink divider, this Grady elder was in the middle of being given a sponge bath by one of our nurse assistants.
Him: "You know? My friend had a heart attack just like me. Just a year older than me. He died. My tight man, too."
Me: "Wow."
His brother was sitting in a bedside chair and chimed in.
Brother: "And don't forget the dude from the car wash.”
2/ Brother: “Wasn't even 50. Left a wife and 4 kids behind."
Him: "Ahh man. I forgot about that. He was good people, too.”
Brother: "Oh yeah."
Him: *snaps finger* “And remember ol' dude from The Sopranos? He died from a heart attack, too. Young."
He shook his head and sighed.
3/ The room fell awkwardly silent after that. I guess something about mentioning Tony Soprano seemed to make the possibility of death seem more real. His eyes started glistening and his face cloaked over with grief.
He turned his head away, hoping his brother wouldn't notice.