Let's talk about... Safety
As always: this is my opinion, yours may vary, there are no rules, no matter where you go there you are.
Safety. Yes, as dull as it sounds, BDSM is dependant on safety.
First: EXPLICITLY get consent for anything dangerous.
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As always: this is my opinion, yours may vary, there are no rules, no matter where you go there you are.
Safety. Yes, as dull as it sounds, BDSM is dependant on safety.
First: EXPLICITLY get consent for anything dangerous.
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It's the difference between choking someone every week, or choking them once and then getting choked yourself every week after in prison, where, AlphaDaddyBullSadist69, you will most certainly be the beta...
Pretty much everything in BDSM carries some risk.
It's the difference between choking someone every week, or choking them once and then getting choked yourself every week after in prison, where, AlphaDaddyBullSadist69, you will most certainly be the beta...
Pretty much everything in BDSM carries some risk.
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Heck, it's why we do it - it's exciting! A Dom literally holds their sub's life in their hands, be it choking, gagging, roping, spanking, flogging... Sure, not everything can kill, but it can mostly certainly lead to mild injury at best, and life-altering injury at worst.
Heck, it's why we do it - it's exciting! A Dom literally holds their sub's life in their hands, be it choking, gagging, roping, spanking, flogging... Sure, not everything can kill, but it can mostly certainly lead to mild injury at best, and life-altering injury at worst.
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I will skip things like SSC, RACK, PRICK and CCC. This thread assumes you're doing something risky because you want to, and so it's purely about safety. First things first: RESEARCH. Learn all you can about what you're doing.
Sign up to Kink Academy: bit.ly/Knk-Academy
I will skip things like SSC, RACK, PRICK and CCC. This thread assumes you're doing something risky because you want to, and so it's purely about safety. First things first: RESEARCH. Learn all you can about what you're doing.
Sign up to Kink Academy: bit.ly/Knk-Academy
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Always have a charged phone with you, and make sure you have reception so you can call an ambulance if you need to. Don't assume that because everything was ok once, it always will be - plan for the worst.
Always have a charged phone with you, and make sure you have reception so you can call an ambulance if you need to. Don't assume that because everything was ok once, it always will be - plan for the worst.
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Carry a first aid kit (I have one in my Big Bag o' Bondage) - at the very least, keep a sharp pair of safety scissors handy so you can quickly cut rope or knots that you can't undo in an emergency. Also plasters in case of accidental cuts (ask me how I know).
Carry a first aid kit (I have one in my Big Bag o' Bondage) - at the very least, keep a sharp pair of safety scissors handy so you can quickly cut rope or knots that you can't undo in an emergency. Also plasters in case of accidental cuts (ask me how I know).
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Avoid silk scarves or ties for bondage - they can slip and tighten very easily and are difficult to undo. Always leave space for the scissors you've brought, a good rule of thumb is to leave room for two fingers. Also on collars - don't choke.
Avoid silk scarves or ties for bondage - they can slip and tighten very easily and are difficult to undo. Always leave space for the scissors you've brought, a good rule of thumb is to leave room for two fingers. Also on collars - don't choke.
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Learn the best way to choke (there's no "safe" way), which parts of the body to avoid in impact play, and how different implements apply different types of impact. See these examples.
deviancebydax.com/tutorials/begi…
jerkmagazine.net/9mfehhs6kt2vag…
Learn the best way to choke (there's no "safe" way), which parts of the body to avoid in impact play, and how different implements apply different types of impact. See these examples.
deviancebydax.com/tutorials/begi…
jerkmagazine.net/9mfehhs6kt2vag…
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Never leave someone unattended if they are restrained; passing out unnoticed can lead to death, they may have a fit, a heart attack, a stroke... Yes, these can happen any time, but you'll be the one held responsible.
Never leave someone unattended if they are restrained; passing out unnoticed can lead to death, they may have a fit, a heart attack, a stroke... Yes, these can happen any time, but you'll be the one held responsible.
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If you are going for some sort of long-term restraint, consider an "Ice Lock" like this deviancebydax.com/product/rouge-… - when the ice melts, the restrained person can free themselves.
If you are going for some sort of long-term restraint, consider an "Ice Lock" like this deviancebydax.com/product/rouge-… - when the ice melts, the restrained person can free themselves.
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I prefer to make sure my clients can reach their phone if they need to - for their own peace of mind and also because something could just as easily happen to me. If you're with someone new, arrange to check in with a friend during the session, as well as before and after.
I prefer to make sure my clients can reach their phone if they need to - for their own peace of mind and also because something could just as easily happen to me. If you're with someone new, arrange to check in with a friend during the session, as well as before and after.
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I did a podcast with tons more safety tips, especially around meeting someone new - check it out here: deviancebydax.com/podcast/devian…
And check in regulary - verbally or visually - to check your partner is still OK.
I did a podcast with tons more safety tips, especially around meeting someone new - check it out here: deviancebydax.com/podcast/devian…
And check in regulary - verbally or visually - to check your partner is still OK.
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So to sum up:
- BDSM is risky. It's hard to be perfectly safe, but do your best
- Prepare for the worst. If you can't handle what a Police investigation into your activity will find, go home.
- Learn. Keep learning.
- First Aid kit. Have one, know how to use it.
So to sum up:
- BDSM is risky. It's hard to be perfectly safe, but do your best
- Prepare for the worst. If you can't handle what a Police investigation into your activity will find, go home.
- Learn. Keep learning.
- First Aid kit. Have one, know how to use it.
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- Subs: you're responsible for your own safety. Don't play with someone who ignores your safety or consent.
- Doms: You're responsible for your sub's safety and your own. Sucks, doesn't it?
- Porn is NOT a guide
- Have fun!
- Subs: you're responsible for your own safety. Don't play with someone who ignores your safety or consent.
- Doms: You're responsible for your sub's safety and your own. Sucks, doesn't it?
- Porn is NOT a guide
- Have fun!
15/ - Bonus tweet!
Yes, I've come across all doom and gloom. Feel free to ignore my advice; that's your choice. BDSM is not "My First Sex Act". It's serious. It can, and has, killed. If that's scaring you - good. It should. Research. Learn. Stop watching porn.
Yes, I've come across all doom and gloom. Feel free to ignore my advice; that's your choice. BDSM is not "My First Sex Act". It's serious. It can, and has, killed. If that's scaring you - good. It should. Research. Learn. Stop watching porn.
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As the lovely @wholesomebutnot reminded me, it’s also a very good idea to find out if your partner has any medical issues, especially if they might be an issue, how to spot them, and what you should do if they arise.
Make sure you take any meds with you.
As the lovely @wholesomebutnot reminded me, it’s also a very good idea to find out if your partner has any medical issues, especially if they might be an issue, how to spot them, and what you should do if they arise.
Make sure you take any meds with you.
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