Thread by @dolawanle

RAISE YOUR BOYS AS REAL MEN

Today, I want to share with you three lessons my mother taught me which has helped me greatly:

Whilst growing up, my mother taught me to be a provider for my family. She said I must not be looking up to my wife for money before I can support my...

family. She said that way, I will lose respect and self-confidence. By God's grace I have a wife who have supported me greatly in every way but I have not made it a habit. My mother saw that I was cooking one day and said ”that was good but your efforts must be more.....

towards equipping yourself to be able to provide for your family as many women are suffering unnecessarily. You must go out, pull off all the stops, work hard with pain, work hard with tears and joy to bring home abundance but my son you can't do that by always........

being in the kitchen”. Today, when people come on social media to brag that their husband can cook, I hope those men are also going out to work hard to make sure the family does not lack the basic and major things in life. I hope they are pulling their weight among men...

I hope they are putting enough action into life so that if anything happens to them suddenly the wife and children they are ’cooking’ for will not suffer. By the way, I can cook. My emphasis: men should spend more time providing for the family financially....

They must not be in the queue every month to collect money from their spouse. The man God created was a provider. Am I saying they should not get support from their wives? I did not say that but it must not become a habit.

My mother taught me to be a bridge-builder and....

a peacemaker. She taught me that those are the men that will rule their world. Any man that will be great must not be a supporter of confusion. He must not be a man that adds to conflicts but a man that is an ambassador of peace. Why? A man’s maturity is shown through their...

perfection of brinkmanship. They are diplomatic, loving, peaceful, peacemakers and relational. They can see into the future and are not confused by present chaos. In the world of real men, brinkmanship is the word. You bring warring parties together...

You create an atmosphere of peace. Your breakthrough is linked to that. If you fall out with every man or woman that your spouse falls out with, you are doomed. Many pastors and men unfortunately are like that and they have limited their ministry and life. Once their....

wives hated someone, they cut the person off without asking questions or trying to create peace. It is a serious weakness. Blessed are the peacemakers, they shall be called the children of God. You will be the one to go out, build bridges, make new friends who will....

teach you great things on how to deliver your family. You see my relationship with many great men and women today and wonder how. It is because I relate well. I put a lot of efforts into being friendly. I hate war. I hate division. I hate malice and I do not walk in....

unforgivess. I have no enemy. I dont take offence easily and I am not childish. You need those things to have good friends. Everyone is my friend. It is a good world to be. My mother taught me to make more friends not enemies. She said greatness is buried in that...

My mother taught me that men must be priests in their family. They must lead their family in serving the Lord, praying, fasting, giving and studying the word. When you see a man saying that his wife is the one praying, he has lost his position. Nothing stops a woman from...

being a prayer warrior but the man God created must be a warrior in the Spirit. If not, the family would suffer in the long run. These three things I learned from my mother and by the grace of God I have been able to do them. People who knows me really well will be nodding....

in agreement as they read this. It has helped my life and the same mentality must be instilled in our boys so that they can lead their generation. May God's grace be sufficient for us all.

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