Being white, growing up in the north and south, and becoming part of a black family. What you learn.
Seeing, experiencing, and feeling it on a visceral level.
You learn there's a constant state of questioning, analyzing, explaining (while angry). It's stressful and wears you out.
BTW-I learned with one of my roommates in 1990 in Miami that if I didn't barge past the ER front desk in an empty waiting room,
The truth: Being dangerously ill while black