Thread by @DrZobo

Team HYMEN, I have gist for you.

1) Not every woman is born with a hymen
2) Not every woman will bleed during her first sexual intercourse
3) Some women have imperforate hymen. Completely sealed, even menses can’t pass.
4) A woman’s rape plea isn’t less cos she’s not a ‘virgin’.

This table is for those looking for ‘Hymen to Marry’...
Virginity until marriage is Great! I endorse it! It is a choice.
But don't get it twisted, Just as Virginity is not directly proportional to Morality, so it is not, to the presence of Hymen.
How?
Continue👇
#DrZobo

Every girl child differs from the next. There are different types of hymen in girls (See picture below).

And the amount of blood that will ‘stain ya bedsheets' is directly proportional to thickness of the hymen, IF PRESENT at all.
No hymen, No blood!
Unless the sex was rough🙏🏽

Yes, Some Girls are born with what we call an Imperforate hymen.
Here, the hymen is completely sealed, and these girls usually present with the complaint of inability to menstruate for their age.

Good history taking, Examination and a pelvic scan will reveal this.

Because of culture and the stigma associated with loosing one’s virginity, some parents struggle with this diagnosis. Esp when they learn that the treatment has to be Hymenotomy. Which involves surgical perforation of the hymen to release the accumulated menstrual fluids.

Why do they struggle?
“You mean my daughter will loose her virginity?”

"Virginity is a woman's pride. Her husband's pride. A woman is more respected by her husband when the next morning reveals a blood stained bed sheet"

Hia.
Our priorities in this country baffle me.
Listen...

Dear Public, a Virgin is simply one who has not engaged in sexual intercourse with anyone.
If it were just Hymen dependent, Guys will have theirs too.

She told you she’s a Virgin, esp in this world of sexual abuse, you still want receipts? You will wound yasef.

There is a reason you dated or married her in the first place, stick to that reason.

Virgin with a hymen or not✅
No longer a virgin✅
All good, as long as she is your choice.

Stop judging women by a tiny inelastic material that could snap under light pressure.
#DrZobo

So dear woman, don't be scared if you don't bleed on your 1st time.
It's perfectly normal too.
The hymen can also be lost in people who engage in some certain sports and strenuous activities.

Cherish your 1st time when it's time, don't let anyone ruin it for you.
#DrZobo

I know some men who ended relationships and developed trust issues towards their wives and partners, just because there was no Blood on Bedsheet after she claimed virginity.

Is she a sacrifice? Did you show your own proof? Let’s be guided.

You might have some apologising to do.

Dear team "Show me your Hymen and I will tell you who you are", you should focus on priorities.
Like character. Truth is, every relationship is built on trust and trust is risky.

Hymen doesn’t define a woman’s worth or character.

You married the woman, not her hymen.
Thanks.

Anonymous Poll
As a woman, did you “bleed” (blood stain) during your first sexual intercourse?

Help us answer cos a lot of our young girls and boys too, have very wild imaginations of how bloody and ‘harlequin-ish” their first time will be.
#SipsZobo